Psychic agony aunt and angel therapist
Linda Mooney is a leading angel therapy practitioner with fifteen years’ experience, trained and certified by Doreen Virtue an international expert in this field. Linda specialises in the healing aspect of angel therapy helping people to engage with their angels to find inner peace and healing. Email Linda at linda@dailymail.ie or write to Linda Mooney, Irish Daily Mail, Third Floor, Embassy House, Dublin 4
QUESTION
Dear Linda, I am 50-year-old mother-of-two with a son, 15, who lives at home. My husband, 52, had a stroke 18 months ago. I had to give up my job to become his full-time carer. He expects me to do everything for him and makes no effort himself. His physiotherapist says he is quite capable but is simply not motivated enough. While I care deeply about him, I am becoming resentful. I have no life of my own between parenting and caring. My 20-year old daughter has also started to leave my grandchild with me as her child-minder is no longer available because of the pandemic. I feel terribly guilty expressing these thoughts and have become terribly depressed. I am tired and weary and no one seems to notice. C
ANSWER
TThere is absolutely no need for you to feel guilty. I have a question I ask many people who seek spiritual advice, and that is “who is minding the minder”? It is not surprising that you are tired, weary and feeling not only depressed,but totally taken for granted. If your husband’s physiotherapist feels he is able to do more for himself, then as long as you enable him, he will totally depend on you. Time for tough love all around including with your daughter. Ask your husband’s side of the family along with your daughter to help out. Making time for your own needs is of the utmost importance.
÷ FIRST CARD: BOUNDARIES
A sincere desire to give of service is wonderful. However, there’s a distinction between giving of yourself and giving up yourself. If you feel tired, guilty or resentful while helping others, then you’re not truly helping them. You’re injecting poisonous energies into the relationship, and then no one benefits. Step back and reassess the situation. As you respect your own boundaries, others will begin to recognise and respect them within you. Love yourself enough to say no to others’demands on your time and energy.
÷ ADVICE/OBSTACLE: RECEPTIVITY
You have a maternal side to you that naturally cares for those in need, yet this must be balanced with receptivity or the flow is blocked. Receiving is the essence of feminine energy, and it means allowing yourself to receive with grace and gratitude. If you feel guilty when asking others for help,or if you feel bad about receiving gifts, then you block your feminine energy. Receptivity allows you to better hear the voices of the angels. When you receive you have more resources to give to others. Begin by noticing the hundreds of gifts you receive each day, whether it’s seeing beauty in nature, witnessing a touching moment, or being hugged by a loved one. Simply say thank you for each gift, and know that they’re keeping the Divine flow going strong.
÷ OUTCOME: START DELEGATING
You need to have private time for contemplation and rest. True productivity comes from a clear and focused mind. Sit quietly and follow the footsteps of your mind. Be open to your heart’s meanderings. They will quietly lead you to make your most important decisions, and the rest will fall into place.