Psychic agony aunt and angel therapist
Linda Mooney is a leading angel therapy practitioner with fifteen years’ experience, trained and certified by Doreen Virtue an international expert in this field. Linda specialises in the healing aspect of angel therapy helping people to engage with their angels to find inner peace and healing. Email Linda at linda@dailymail.ie or write to Linda Mooney, Irish Daily Mail, Two, Haddington Buildings, Haddington Road, Dublin 4
QUESTION
Dear Linda, Please can you help me. I was widowed after my husband died four years ago leaving me with our now 12-year-old daughter. A year ago I got involved with a lovely man who is divorced with two children aged eight and 10.
Recently we have been taking them at weekends and while we all get along well I am feeling overwhelmed.
I work 40 hours a week in a very demanding job and what with the hours I spend at work each day, in the car, with my partner, with the children and with lots of other commitments there never seems to be any time in my life for me
My partner is rather laid back, and even on weekends when we have his children he still gets to do his own thing. He runs on Saturdays and Sundays when we have his children, and often meets with his friends on a Friday night leaving me to collect his children.
He seems to take it for granted that it’s my job to wash, clean and cook for them when they are with us. I am exhausted and while I am very fond of the children and my daughter gets along with them I don’t feel all the responsibility should be on me. I never get to catch up with my friends and family and I am beginning to resent him for it. Sincerely, B.
ANSWER
Dear B, It’s no wonder you are craving peace and serenity. It’s time among all the confusion to state your priorities and retireve your sanity.
From what you say your partner is being very irresponsible both to you and the children.
It’s time to sit down and have a heart to heart and set some boundaries. If you don’t sort this situation now it can only escalate and resentment can turn to anger and cause further problems in your relationship.
Time to speak up, surely your needs are equally as important as your partners.
▪ FIRST CARD: BOUNDARIES
A sincere to give of service is wonderful. However, there is a distinction between giving of yourself and giving up yourself. If you feel tired, guilty, or resentful while helping others, then you’re not truly helping them, are you? You’re injecting poisionous energies into the relationship, and then no one benefits. Step back and reassess the situation. As you respect your own boundaries, other will begin to recognise and respect them within you, and within themselves as well.
▪ ADVICE/OBSRACLE: START DELEGATING
When you feel resentment in your heart because you are carrying more than your share of the load, you’re doing no favours for anyone, including yourself. You need to ask for help to ensure that you have private time for contemplation and rest.
The angels urge you to sit quietly and follow the footsteps of your mind. Be open to your heart’s meanderings.
They will quietly lead you to make your most important decisions, and the rest will fall into place.
▪ OUTCOME: INDEPENDENT
‘Like the cat, you are fiercely independent, yet you also need affection and playful companions. Now is the time to balance your social interactions with solitude.
‘While you may ask others for their opinions, ultimately you must make your own decisions.’