Should I try again with My EX?

Dear Coleen

I’m a single woman and I’ve just met up again with an ex, who I’ve thought about a lot since we split up eight years ago.

We had a great night together, and ended up in bed, and afterwards our mutual friends commented that they hadn’t seen him this happy in years.

I’m not sure about what – if anything – to do next. When we broke up it was mostly because neither of us was quite ready for a serious commitment. Now, my instincts are telling me we’re good together and we should give it a go. I’m pretty sure he feels the same and he’s single, too.

Do you think it’s a mistake to go back? I feel really confused!

Coleen says

I wouldn’t dismiss your feelings, but I wouldn’t jump feet first into a full-blown relationship. Several years have passed and you have a lot of catching up to do, and you’ve both probably changed in that time.

Perhaps it was the wrong time for you eight years ago and you’re both a bit older, wiser, and clearer about what you want out of life. So take it slowly, date again and see how it goes, but don’t put too much pressure on yourselves.

And, if it’s meant to be, then you’ll work it out. Just try not to get too carried away with the romance of it all, so you don’t end up disappointed – exes are always exes for a reason.