DIVORCED PAL IS HITTING ON MY HUSBAND

Dear Coleen

One of my good friends has recently come out of a horrible divorce and all of her friends – including me – have been incredibly supportive.

We’ve gone the extra mile to take her out and invite her to things, however, over the past few weeks she’s started flirting with my husband.

At first I turned a blind eye to it and actually felt sorry for her knowing what she’s been through, but now it’s starting to really grate on me. The other night when a few of us were out for dinner, she barely spoke to anyone else but him and was really touchy-feely with him to the point where a couple of other friends mentioned it to me afterwards.

Being a typical guy, my husband was oblivious. I don’t want to seem insecure and silly by bringing it up, but what do I do?

Coleen says

Initially, you could try making a joke of it – say something like, ‘Hey, hands off the husband, he’s not used to that kind of attention’.

Hopefully, she’ll be a bit embarrassed and take the hint.

Her confidence and self-esteem have probably taken a big hit since her divorce and maybe, even on a subconscious level, she’s trying to prove to herself that’s she’s still ‘got it’ and is still desirable to the opposite sex. And maybe she’s plumped for your hubby because she knows he’s taken so there’s no chance of anything happening – it’s a ‘safe’ way to explore these feelings, if you like.

However, that doesn’t stop you feeling annoyed and uncomfortable, so why not pull back a bit from seeing her for a while or at least when you do go out with her, make it a girls’ night and don’t invite your partners.