To LY g n life year
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Enrol for extra training or become more confident about drawing attention to the good work you’ve done. Get going with what’s in your control from today.
Become a ‘doer’
There’s always that person at work who arranges a drinks night or charity event for everyone to get behind. They get noticed.
What’s holding you back from being the one to suggest something new at work? Brainstorm some ideas to put forward, including after-work bonding events and things that might promote a better work environment.
Streamline your time
Other research shows that those who get behind at work, or get extra stressed about things like deadlines, are the least streamlined. Guess what one of the biggest culprits is for getting behind? Emails and other messaging systems.
Do what savvy people do and become disciplined about how often you check and reply to emails.
Turn any alert system off and dive in only for a certain amount of time – timeframes that work for you. Maybe an hour, maybe a bit more or a bit less. Then prioritise what you answer. You’ll be surprised by the benefit. Check your great expectations Study after study shows we expect our blood relations to be like the Waltons. We buy into the sunny, happy images of advertising, forgetting that each family member has their own faults and quirks as well as their attributes.
Tr y the “personal documentar y technique” – as if you were making a documentar y about y our f a mi ly. Through the truthful lens of your “documentary”, look honestly at the struggles each family member might have. Try to be more understanding of them and you might be surprised.
Having a greater understanding of each other’s situations can calm down resentments between you.
The fun factor
Has family life become all about chores and responsibilities? It’s time to build fun into the family.
Even if money is tight there’s lots you can do to add in more fun, for example, popcorn and DVD nights, walks at local beauty spots, cooking dinner together one night, getting everyone to the swimming baths for a splash around.
It’s far too easy to slip into a routine that leaves out the fun.
Recognise that minefield Friendships are more of a minefield nowadays with not only your real face-to-face friends but your social media “friends”.
It can be really exciting to get likes and comments from social media friends – it’s a little pleasurable “hit” to the brain.
But don’t drone on to your real in-theflesh friends about the exciting person you’ve been interacting with on Twitter or Instagram today.
Don’t lose sight of who’ll be there for you when the going gets tough – not those flighty friends on social media. Show the love to the people who are genuinely there for you.
That holds true for putting a spring into any area of your life right now – value those who are there for you in a meaning ful way.
We buy into sunny, happy images of advertising, forgetting each family member has their faults and quirks