DOES HER MOTHER FANCY ME?

Dear Coleen

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for two years and I recently asked her to marry me. She still lives with her mum, who brought her up alone and was only 15 when she gave birth. My girlfriend and I are both 27, so her mum is only 42 and seems even younger.

My dilemma is, I think her mum is flirting with me. It started after I moved in for a few weeks to do some work on their house. I’ve moved out again, but since then she’s behaved differently towards me. It’s been nothing that anyone else would notice – looks, being a bit more touchy-feely, trying to get my attention with body language and what she’s wearing.

Maybe it seems trivial, but it’s causing me sleepless nights and I wonder if I should mention it to my fiancée or her mum? Help!

Coleen says

OK, what’s to tell? She hasn’t done or said anything inappropriate. Maybe she does think you’re cute and a great guy, especially after having you in her home and getting to know you better, but it doesn’t mean she’d ever act on it in a month of Sundays. So I really wouldn’t make this into a big deal.

Lots of people are flirtatious by nature, but it doesn’t mean they want to sleep with you. I’ve always been a big flirt, but it’s not serious.

However, if being in her company is making you feel awkward, then just back off a bit. How often do you really need to see her?

Unless she makes it obvious that she wants to jump into bed with you, I’d stop focusing on her and concentrate on your girlfriend and your future together.