Starting to cross-dress: is it normal?

Dear Coleen

I am a straight man, however over the past couple of months I’ve found myself falling in love with women’s clothes.

I started with underwear and slowly moved on to wearing tights. Whenever I wear these clothes I feel very happy and I’ve now started looking for skirts and trousers.

Can you please tell if I am normal? I’m worrying about it.

Coleen says

Who wants to be normal? And what’s normal anyway? I’ve been the Mirror’s agony aunt for a few years now and I can tell you honestly that the dilemma you’re writing to me about is a lot more normal than you think. In terms of the letters I receive, cross-dressing is one of the most popular topics I get asked about.

It sounds as if you’re just starting to explore these desires you have, so my advice is to do some research online because there’s a whole community of guys out there and plenty of organisations offering advice and support. You can link up with likeminded people who all have the same thoughts, feelings, fears and concerns and you’ll realise that you’re not alone, but one of many.

I think you just need reassurance and to feel safe exploring this side of yourself. Good luck.