I KISSED MY BOYFRIEND’S BROTHER

Dear Coleen

Recently, I’ve been getting fed up with my boyfriend telling me what I can and cannot wear. He was in a real mood with me after I wore a short skirt because it was 25 degrees outside.

His brother was there for me and offered comfort – we’ve always had something that my boyfriend and I don’t.

We both had a bit to drink and listened to some music, and he told me he liked me. We kissed and it didn’t feel wrong and I don’t regret it.

However, he told his brother about what happened before I had the chance to do it myself, twisting the facts by saying that I tried to kiss him and he pulled away. Now neither of them will speak to me and they’ve blocked me on social media. I get that it’s my own fault, but I’m feeling heartbroken. I really thought that I might have something special with the brother.

Do I just walk away from them both or try to reach out to them?

Coleen says

Well, aside from breaking lockdown by kissing the brother – what on earth are you doing with these two losers?

Your boyfriend is clearly controlling by trying to dictate what you wear. Do you really want to be with someone who takes away your choices and watches your every move?

As for the brother, trying it on with his brother’s girlfriend and then blaming it all on you because he’s worried about his brother’s reaction doesn’t cover him in glory either.

Yes, you’ve got yourself into a mess, but learn from what’s happened and move on to someone who treats you with respect and allows you to be yourself in life.

Even if you’d ended things with your boyfriend and then told him you wanted to date his brother, it still wouldn’t have gone well and it would have posed lots of challenges for your new relationship.

My advice: walk away.