I can feel electricity when boyfriend’s stepdad kisses me
This isn’t going to come across well, but I have a big crush on my boyfriend’s stepdad and I’m starting to wonder which one of them I’m most interested in.
I’ve been seeing my partner for two years now and there are no issues, apart from the fact that I fancy his stepdad, who’s 40, very fit and handsome.
My boyfriend’s mum is in her 50s, so her husband is quite a bit younger and they seem like an odd couple.
Whenever I’m over at my boyfriend’s parents’ house, I find myself flirting a lot with his stepdad and I’m pretty sure he flirts back – lots of warm smiles, banter and joking around. And when we kiss hello and goodbye, I can literally feel the electricity between us.
I can tell my boyfriend’s mum doesn’t like me. In fact, she’s said as much, warning him that I’m “flighty” and “trouble”.
We are in our mid-20s, so don’t feel ready to settle down and get married or even live together. I’m wondering if fancying his dad is a sign that I’ve got some more living left to do and shouldn’t be in a relationship. Please help.
Coleen says
Stop and ask yourself what you’re trying to achieve here. What are you expecting from your boyfriend’s stepdad and what would you do if he actually suggested starting something romantically between the two of you?
He might like having a laugh with you and enjoy your company. He may even find you attractive, but it doesn’t mean he’s going to blow up his marriage and run off with you.
My advice would be to take the flirting down several notches or, better still, don’t flirt with him at all.
I’m not surprised your boyfriend’s mum is cool towards you if you’re making it so obvious that you fancy her husband. She probably thinks it’s immature and a bit embarrassing ( for you), but not an actual threat to her marriage.
Decide how you really feel about your boyfriend and, if you want to stay with him, then focus on the relationship and maybe stop going over to his mum’s house so much. Conduct your relationship elsewhere. And if you’re not serious about him and would rather be single, then move on – but certainly not with his stepdad!
I really fancy this guy who is 40, fit and handsome