Shunned by family after foolish romp
CAUGHT IN NUDE BY WIFE JANE O’GORMAN SOLVES YOUR PROBLEMS TODAY ... AND EVERY DAY
I RECKON I really am about as popular as the pox.
Everyone in my household hates me. My wife hasn’t spoken to me for months after she caught me in bed with her best friend.
My teenage sons say I’m an embarrassment and a disgrace.
My mum is furious that she’s living in the annex (aka converted garage) rather than in the main house with us.
Everywhere I turn, I’m met with dirty looks and abuse. I walk into the front room and everyone gets up and clears off.
Lonely
Even the cat has taken to weeing on my favourite chair – well, I think it’s the cat…
I’m the first to admit that I’m an idiot who regularly makes mistakes, but I don’t think I deserve this level of derision.
I know I shouldn’t have slept with my wife’s friend, but she was sex-starved and lonely after being scammed by a Romeo online. I was helping to sort out the bank details on her laptop when one thing led to another.
My wife and sons came home early from a university open day and caught us naked. I’ve tried to explain that the sex wasn’t even very good – I was useless – but that’s got me nowhere.
I think my mum could be more supportive and on-side but she’s fuming. Last year, I persuaded her to sell her bungalow.
We used the cash to convert our garage into a cosy granny flat, but she hates it and never stops complaining that I’ve tricked her.
I haven’t. The problem is that she got too used to living in the main house with us while the work was being done and now feels she’s been left in the cold.
I can’t win. She says I should be put in the “doghouse” as she calls it – and my wife agrees.
JANE SAYS: Have you honestly apologised to your wife and sons for embarrassing them? If you haven’t then do it right now. It’s no use simply saying, “The sex was no good”. That’s no excuse.
You must hold your hands up and admit that you did a terrible thing for which you are very sorry.
You must also say that nothing like that will ever happen again and ask for a fresh start. Maybe ask your wife to consider relationship counselling.
Can you explain to her why you cheated? What can you do to make things better?
You’re trying to fight a war on several fronts. You sound like a man on the edge. Call your GP if ever you start to feel depressed.
If this living arrangement really isn’t working out, then you’ll have to sort it out. Could the teenage boys live in the annex instead?
Could you rent it out while you make room for your mum in the main house or find her somewhere else?
Something has got to give. I’m sure that things are going to continue to be tricky for a while, but you cannot allow yourself to be pushed out entirely.