Do I tell my fella about sexy past?
ESCORT & KEPT WOMAN JANE O’GORMAN SOLVES YOUR PROBLEMS TODAY ... AND EVERY DAY
MUST I tell my new guy that I used to be a sex worker?
He thinks I’m innocent and naïve. But I’ve seen more hot action than he’s had cold pints.
My past is peppered with dark secrets – some of which I’m ashamed of, some I’m not…
I left school at 18 and moved abroad where I worked for many years as a dancer and escort.
I earned a lot of money and turned a lot of tricks. Then I met a sugar daddy who set me up in a nice flat and gave me money for clothes and beauty treatments.
His wife had no idea about me. Eventually he swapped me for someone younger and more grateful and I was cast out, which was both humiliating and scary.
Eventually I was forced to return to Ireland and slum it with my disapproving sister.
I’m now respectable and working in marketing. I met my current boyfriend at a party. He’s talking about settling down, but I fear I’ll frighten him away if I tell him my truth.
My other concern is someone from my past will creep out of the woodwork and expose me.
I really do like this guy and don’t want to screw this one up. How must I play this?
In my defence, everything I did as a saucy, younger woman took place in other countries at another time. I never did anything naughty here. Looking back, it feels like it happened to someone else.
Do my sordid secrets even count when I’m not that risk-taking firebrand anymore?
JANE SAYS: You need to have a good, long think and then speak openly and honestly to your man about your previous life.
Leave him in no doubt that you’re not quite the little innocent he thinks you are.
How economical you are with the truth is between you and your conscience but do remember that inconvenient truths have a horrible habit of coming out in the end.
Does your guy deserve to hear about the sugar daddy? Do you need to explain about the escort work especially if you had sex with clients for money?
Everyone deserves a new start and if you feel you could be happy with this man, then do whatever you feel is appropriate and right.
It’s often said that the truth frees us. You may find that you experience relief from opening up. You may like to claim that your wildest times took place a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away, but they’re clearly still bugging you.
Can you see yourself being happy with him long-term, or will you eventually become bored? Do you fear being judged and condemned?
Ultimately, if he truly loves you then he’ll accept and forgive you anything. It’s very possible that he has a few skeletons in the closet of his own.
How he reacts to your history is up to him. And for you and him – as a couple – to deal with.