Wild girl makes me role-play as her ex
BUT THE SEX IS SO RED HOT JANE O’GORMAN SOLVES YOUR PROBLEMS TODAY ... AND EVERY DAY
I’M nothing more than my girl’s sexual plaything.
I struggle to match her phenomenal imagination and drive.
It’s not unusual for her to dress me up in heels and red lipstick and demand I pretend to be a film star or one of her mates.
She thinks role-playing is fun. I’m ordered around the bedroom like a performing seal.
From kinky positions to dirty talk, there are no boundaries.
Yes, the resulting sex is invariably mind-blowing, but I’m left exhausted and confused because I’m losing sight of who I am.
Bitter
She says she loves me as a person but I frequently feel I’m nothing more than a prop.
She’s in conflict with her expartner. They’re rowing about money, furniture and a car they owned together.
Their break-up has been bitter and acrimonious and she’s taking out her frustrations on me.
She orders me to pretend to be him so she can work out her anger. I’m screamed at for being a “useless piece of garbage”.
I argue back in his stupid voice and then we fall on the bed in a tangle of anger and passion.
She says I help her to feel better, but what about me? Why do I have to pretend to be the man she claims to hate? During the three months we’ve been together, I’ve done things I never imagined possible.
I’ve given into her demands in the hope of pleasing her. But now she’s just announced that she’d like to invite another couple over for a “party” next week.
I know what kind of party it will be and I’m not interested. Yet I know that if I complain, then I won’t hear the end of it.
JANE SAYS: Why are you still staying with her? What do you have in common?
She is outrageously hardcore while you’re more sensitive and caring. I’m not saying you’re right and she’s wrong, but there isn’t much mutual territory.
If you genuinely believe she only uses you to take out her frustrations, fulfil her fantasies and feel better about herself, that’s not healthy.
Tell her that this relationship is not a game to you. Where is the genuine love and respect?
There doesn’t seem to be much consideration for your feelings or limits.
Refuse to take part in the proposed foursome and stand your ground. She may even respect you for it. You’re not her puppet or her dressing up doll.
If she’s still obsessed with her ex, perhaps she should start being honest with herself and go back to him.
I understand that your sex life is red hot and unpredictable but you sound like a man on the edge.
Is she capable of accepting things have gone too far?
Is she willing to change and start seeing things from your point of view?
If she’s not, then I urge you to start safeguarding your mental health by getting out.