She turned nasty after saying ‘I do’
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MY new wife turned into a monster minutes after I said “I do”.
She started having a go at me as we walked back down the aisle. She hissed that I looked scruffy and my hair was a mess.
Outside the church she scowled through the photographs then screamed at my niece for throwing confetti as the vicar had asked us not to.
The reception was a nightmare with her moaning about the food (too cold), the speeches (too long) and the DJ not playing her favourite song.
Our young marriage has been downhill all the way since. She’s gone from being loving and considerate to nasty and controlling.
Our sex life is particularly horrible. She’s cold and brisk and acts as if it’s my duty to pleasure her – and do anything she says.
She goes crazy if I fail to satisfy her needs. She says it’s scientifically proven that a woman needs an orgasm a day for the sake of her mental and physical health.
If I fail to deliver, she grabs a sex toy and huffs: “Fine, I’ll take care of it myself,” which makes me feel like rubbish…
We’ve known each other for eight years. We used to be happy, but I don’t understand how the wedding has changed her.
I never know what to expect
MONSTER BRIDE: His new wife changed from the moment they’d said their vows
each day. I’ve never cheated or done anything to hurt her, yet she constantly accuses me of fancying female colleagues or getting off with strangers.
I am so unhappy. Our rows have become nasty. No-one who knows us would believe what’s going on behind closed doors.
Why is she being such a nightmare when all I want to do is love and take care of her?
JANE SAYS: You’ve gone from being a young couple to a committed married pair and, maybe, she feels scared and slightly overwhelmed.
Weddings are notoriously
stressful and if she’s started married life on the wrong foot, she might be finding it hard to right herself. Could it be that the expectations and responsibilities are weighing heavily on her shoulders?
It is vital that you sit down with her and say you’re unhappy and confused. Why is she being so demanding and mean? Can’t she see how much she’s hurting you?
A marriage is a work in progress. She can’t simply boss you around like her own personal domestic slave.
From speaking rudely to being cold and unreasonable
in bed, she needs to hear that you’re struggling to understand her.
Ultimately, you have to be tough. You need to stand up for yourself before she overwhelms or crushes you.
Sadly, if she really can’t calm down and change, you’ll have to conclude that this is a mismatch and prepare to go your own way.
Speak to your family and friends and be honest about the intolerable situation you find yourself in.
Don’t let pride stop you from speaking out. Verbal assault is a criminal offence.
JANE SAYS: Your friend is clearly determined to put her marriage behind her and sally forth as a proud, independent single woman.
Her party is her way of saying “I’m back”. As with all things, if you can’t afford to bake a cake, take booze or buy a present, speak up now.
You may consider this party tacky and a little odd, but it takes all sorts and if this will help your friend to achieve closure and move on, is that so bad?