Does ex’s mum have rights over my kids? FREE
but she cannot stop you from living your own life and she could become a fantastic asset – providing child care and giving your children an extra dimension of love that is sadly not coming from their father.
Yes, she may wish to keep you all close – and some of that instinct may be because she’d really like to one day see you and her son reunited.
I can see why that worries you. So talk to her. Say it would be lovely for the children to see her (as long as you do think that) but make it very plain that she must not suggest to them in any way that their parents may get back together. Equally, she must not brief against you. She has asked for weekly contact. Only you can decide what sort of contact and how regular it should be – after discussion with the children.
You can always start by including her in a family outing, and see how it goes. Here you have a grandmother who can be most useful, so take advantage of all the positive elements she has to offer.
Understand, too, that after a divorce you can feel you mistrust everyone from “his side”. But just think how great it would be if you could occasionally drop the kids off at her place for a few hours, and have some precious time to look after yourself!
If you think you might need family mediation, go to nfm.org.uk.
She could be a fantastic asset – providing child care and giving your kids extra love