Should I stick with Facebook flirter?

time he says he’s going out or stays behind at work, or is even up late at night on the computer, you’re going to assume he’s cheating in some way.

So you simply have to confront it, so that you can both talk it through and figure out where you both stand. Look, you read those pages because they were on screen – you didn’t deliberately hack into his account.

You had no reason to be suspicious, but now you are!

Even if he protests that his dodgy conversations with women are just sexy online banter (cybersex, if you like), that they are not real nor meaningful, I think it is a sort of cheating because he is seeking his thrills away from you – in secret. It is a deception. And now you know he has also hurt you and put your marriage at risk.

So don’t let him try to laugh it off. He may also try to say you’re lucky because his cybersex prevents him from cheating with a real person. Only you can judge whether those arguments convince you. The bigger issue now is trust.

Having seen what he gets up to online, can you trust him when he says it goes no further? If he vows to stop, can you believe he will? If you can’t work it out together, then try relationship counselling. Visit relate.org.uk for information.

There may be nothing in his seedy chats but you must confront him, find out where you stand...