More to marriage than a big day out
friends compare diamond rings. We are talking grown women with fabulous careers who are still obsessed with showing off their rock.
I’m in a seriously happy relationship right now and although we have two amazing kids together the rush is not on to get married.
Oprah Winfrey met Stedman Graham in 1986 at a charity event and the pair have been together ever since.
Though the two announced their engagement in 1992, wedding bells never followed and Oprah felt it was a good thing. She told Vogue: “We would not have stayed together because marriage requires a different way of being in this world.
“His interpretation of what it means to be a husband and what it would mean for me to be a wife would have been pretty traditional, and I would not have been able to fit into that.”
The behavioural scientist Paul Dolan said: “If you’re a man, you should probably get married. If you’re a woman, don’t bother.”
In his book Happy Ever After:
Escaping The Myth Of The Perfect Life, Dolan delves into the myth that marital bliss exists.
His book reignites an important debate: Is it bad for women to be married? We’re supposed to learn on the job, but once we get hitched we sort of relax.
We don’t try as hard anymore or work on our relationship and we get stale.
Everything in life that’s worth it requires constant communication and attention. If you’re not willing to work on your marriage trust me you shouldn’t be in it.