My body is embarrassing. Does size matter to girls?
QIAM a 17-yearold boy with an embarrassing problem. I think my penis is small. Though I am six-foot tall and quite muscular, I am not similarly built down below. When I see Michelangelo’s David statue in history books it reminds me of me in front of the mirror in my bedroom. My penis is two to three inches when soft and at its hardest and biggest it’s barely five inches long. My erect penis looks like other boys’ penises when they are just hanging there. As a result I am very shy with girls when it comes to being more than friends. I’ve been told by girls that I’m ‘cute’ and ‘good-looking’ but I think to myself ‘if you saw my little cocktail sausage you’d laugh at me’. It gets even worse after swimming or running as my penis and testicles almost disappear into my body and only my foreskin remains. I am mortified at the thought of girls laughing at me when they see me naked or me not being able to have sex with them because I’m too small. Please help me if there’s anything that you can do.
ATHE first thing I will tell you is to stop worrying. Many guys like you feel that they are abnormal whereas the average penis is three and a half inches when flaccid and when erect is just over five inches. There are a couple of points that you should bear in mind. When you see other guys — for instance in the shower after sports — you are looking at them full on whereas when you look down at your own penis you are seeing it slightly altered as it is foreshortened from that angle. You look in the mirror as well, but every time you see your penis apart from that you are looking down at it. As regards swimming and sports almost everybody has the same experience as yours. One man — who does not have a problem with size — mentioned to me that when he has been swimming or working out it looks like his navel has moved downwards!
Many guys with longer penises than yours do not get much larger when they become erect, whereas a very short flaccid penis does. In other words they all average out to roughly the same length when erect. Of course there are exceptions and some guys have large penises but if anything this can cause problems to the girl with whom they are having sex. It can be quite daunting for a young woman to try to accommodate a very large penis and they report pain and fear. But above all what you have to bear in mind is that a girl has very little sensitivity actually inside the vagina, and it is far more important that you learn how to pleasure a girl in a way that she enjoys, rather than worrying about whether the length of your penis will satisfy her.