Building self-confidence during COVID Wellbeing & Meditation
We feel confident when we live according to our values – when we spend our time doing things related to what we say is important to us – in other words - when there is alignment in how we spend our time and energy and our beliefs and values.
We build confidence when we achieve what we set out to do. A series of small victories that we make happen is a great way to start. Set small goals. Achieve them and set bigger ones. We build confidence through having consistent positive habits.
Just as having confidence in the banks, a political party or the Government means that you have faith in them and feel you can rely on them (or not!) – the same applies to yourself. You feel confident when you know you can rely on your
self to do your best in a situation. Procrastination is the opposite of that – as when we put things off that we know we ‘should do’, we are showing ourselves that we cannot rely on ourselves.
In the last few days, I have had some interesting discussions with people on how COVID has affected personal confidence. Some have lost their jobs and are worried about their ability to provide in the future. They are feeling temporarily less confident. Others are more confident – as even though they are stretched, the current challenges have forced them to regroup, dig deep and redesign their lives for the better.
Elizabeth a holistic therapist from South Africa said: ‘Living through COVID, what will one day be a major event in history – just like my ancestors lived during World Wars and other serious life challenges, has given me a new perspective on myself, my family and our situation.
‘I have had a lot of time to reflect and it has allowed me to work on my fears about survival.
This has brought me confidence because I have realised over the days, weeks and months that I am still here – keeping the show on the road – even with the problems and uncertainty. I have understood more clearly than ever that fear is the biggest impediment to my daily wellbeing.
‘ There have been struggles. But I have gotten through. That is what happens. We get through things and most people are caring enough to lend a helping hand when it is really needed. Being able to see my fear in this way has given me confidence that I have the resources and the resilience to get on with it.’
Sinead, a counsellor said: ‘I am seeing a lot more people coming to resolve long-standing problems that have come to the surface now because they are ‘stuck at home’ or because of a changed work or family situation. While it is difficult in the short term, I am amazed at how people are finding new strength in themselves that they feel really good about. While it is a difficult time for so many, there are opportunities to heal trauma and grow.’
How YOU ARE FEELING?
We live in interesting times. If there are setbacks in your life, see them as temporary. Face your fears. If things are not going the way you want them to – work on your confidence. Confident people make things happen for themselves and others. Confidence requires consistent effort. Set simple objectives. Achieve small victories. Spend time on what matters most. You will feel better and stronger by the day.
Calodagh McCumiskey is an accredited thought leader in wellbeing. She works with companies and individuals. For more information, visit: www.spiritualearth.com or contact: info@spiritualearth.com 0871 335230 ‘Let’s grow together’.