Too much fight­ing at home

Jamaica Gleaner - - BUSINESS - Or­lean Brown Earle Or­lean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psy­chol­o­gist and fam­ily ther­a­pist. Dr Brown-Earle works with chil­dren with learn­ing and be­havioural prob­lems through­out the is­land and in the Caribbean. Email ques­tions to editor@glean­erjm.com or send

Q : My 15-year-old brother has de­cided to go and live with our grand­mother be­cause of the fights at home with our par­ents. Grandma does not have much, but is afraid to say no. How can I con­vince him to come back home?

A: Your par­ents need to speak with your brother and ex­plain to him the fi­nan­cial is­sues that may sur­round his stay with his grand­mother. Your par­ents also need to get some coun­selling sup­port to re­solve their own prob­lems. Pray for them and let them know that you want them to stop ar­gu­ing and to re­solve their prob­lems.

Q : My cousin, who is 12, lit­er­ally runs his mother’s home. He goes to the su­per­mar­ket, tells the other sib­lings ages nine and six – what to do in the house, such as clean­ing and wash­ing. He helps, too. His mother does ‘days’ work from 7 a.m. to 7 p.m. three days a week, and any other day she gets. I think it is un­fair to him. Is it wrong for me to talk to his mother?

A: You may speak with his mother and en­cour­age her to be more re­spon­si­ble for her house­hold. It is okay for your cousin to help, but not too much. You may rec­om­mend that on the days that she does not work that she may plan to get most of the larger house­hold chores done to lessen the stress on the chil­dren.

Q : My su­per­vi­sor works at one school close to home and al­lows his child to go to an­other school many miles away. He can get the child into this school if he wants to. He al­ways has money prob­lems. Is it okay for me to share with him the ad­di­tional cost of his child’s trans­porta­tion that may be adding to his bur­den?

A: Your su­per­vi­sor may have a valid rea­son for this plan for a dif­fer­ent school. As an adult, it is quite ap­pro­pri­ate for you to be con­cerned about your col­league. If you de­cide to share your con­cerns, please do so in a very pri­vate area.

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