She won’t have sex without a condom

QDoc, I love my girlfriend a lot, but she won’t have sex with me unless I use a condom.

I have never tried one of these devices, and I don’t know much about them. So can you please tell me two things:

Is it true that they take away all the nice feelings, so that there is no sensation?

How do you use them? I have no idea at all!

AWell, may I say that I think your girlfriend is quite right in insisting that you use a condom. When you are a teenager, it is real easy to get pregnant! So if you are going to have sex, it’s essential to use a safe method of contraception, like the condom.

Now, let me answer your first question: Does the condom take away all feelings? No, it doesn’t – though it slightly diminishes sensation for the guy. Most men don’t think that this very slight loss of skin sensation is worth fretting about.

Does the condom change the sensations for the female? Some women say no, while others say slightly. I am really doubtful if the average girl could tell whether her partner was wearing a condom.

To avoid diminished sensation, you should buy the thinnest type of condom that you can find. If you go on the Internet, you will find that there are a lot of brands which are described as extra thin or ultra thin.

Now to your second question, which was ‘How do you use them?’ Many young people don’t really understand this, so let me explain.

Open the packet which contains the condom. Take it out carefully, making sure you do not tear it.

Don’t blow it up in order to test it! Many young guys think that this is what you should do, but it has already been tested at the factory, and blowing it up might break it.

Next, place it on the tip of your erect penis. If you are not yet erect, don’t try to put it on – wait until an erection returns.

Then, unroll the condom carefully over the erect penis. Many guys start losing their stiffness at this point. The remedy for this is to let the young lady roll the condom onto you. This usually results in satisfactory stiffness so that the condom will go on. Roll it right down till it reaches the base of your organ.

Now you are ready to go ahead and have intercourse. Please do not do this before you get the condom on! Riding ‘bareback’ could get your partner pregnant.

Finally, when you have climaxed, you should ‘pull out’ of the lady’s body while holding the condom firmly on your penis by using your finger and thumb. Avoid any spillage!

There is often an instruction leaflet with a pack of condoms. Read it carefully before you start.

QHelp me, Doc! Am I pregnant? A month back, I was given the contraceptive shot, and three weeks ago, I had a lot of sex with my boyfriend. Since then, I have not seen my menses. Does this mean I have conceived?

AOnce a woman has started on the jab (or shot), it is exceedingly unlikely that she will get pregnant, no matter how much sex she has.

If you wish, you could do a pregnancy test, but my forecast is that it will be negative.

What you probably have not realised is that one of the most common side effects of the shot is absent periods. A very high portion (around 40 per cent) of young women who are given the jab will either get irregular bleeding or no menses at all. This may last for several months.

My girlfriend says she loves me, but she won’t have sex with me, Doc! Don’t you think that is unfair of her?

ANo, not at all. It is her body and she has the right to decide what she does with it.

In the fullness of time, she might decide to have sex with you, or she might not.