Your kids and social media

SOCIAL NETWORKING is on the rise, and a study found that 22 per cent of teenagers log on to their favourite social media sites more than 10 times a day, and that 75 per cent own cell phones. This level of engagement online increases the risks of cyberbullying, ‘Facebook depression’ (a new phenomenon where ‘defriending’ and online bullying lead to symptoms of depression), exposure to inappropriate content, and sexting.

Just as we prepare our kids for life in the real world, we should prepare them for life in the online world. Read on for tips that every parent should keep in mind.

NO UNDERAGE ‘FACEBOOKING’

Did you know that no one under the age of 13 is permitted to join Facebook? However, there is no real way for Facebook to truly enforce it, because anyone can lie about their year of birth. You need to make sure that your child stays away from Facebook until 13, and until you are comfortable with him or her having an account. There are measures put in place, such as reporting an underage child, but ultimately, it should be the parent who has the say on when and if that account gets created.

CHECK PRIVACY SETTINGS

Check that your privacy settings for the Internet and Facebook are set to the strictest levels. Depending on which browser you are using, you can adjust the settings directly from the options tab and adjust levels around cookies, thirdparty sites and more. This not only protects the computer user, but also the computer from the threat of viruses.

CREATE GROUND RULES

If your kids are old enough to be using the computer on their own, they are old enough to understand that there are rules they need to abide by. Breaking them should not have a lesser consequence than if they broke a rule in the offline world.

GET TO KNOW WHAT YOUR CHILD’S HABITS ARE

You don’t need to be a super sleuth and spy on your kid’s every online move, but it is important to be aware of the kinds of sites he is frequenting and the people he is associating with. You get to know the friends he’s hanging out with at school, and his online friends shouldn’t be any different. One of the contract rules should be that you have full access to his Facebook friends and can take a look whenever you wish.

KEEP THE COMPUTER IN A CENTRAL LOCATION

It’s much easier to keep tabs on any online activity when the computer is located in a high-traffic zone than if your child is using a computer in the privacy of her own room. Place the computer in a central location like your kitchen or family room so that everything is out in the open.

URGE YOUR KIDS TO AVOID QUESTIONNAIRES, FREE GIVEAWAYS AND CONTESTS

A pop-up ad appears and tells kids they can win a free iPad by simply clicking the link. Anyone would be tempted by this kind of offer, but kids are particularly susceptible, so it’s important to warn kids against falling for this kind of Internet trick. Many of these ruses are attempts to glean personal information. Inform your kids that even if they are forwarded a fun questionnaire from a friend, it’s best to close the window and not participate.

MONITOR THE PICTURES YOUR CHILD POSTS ONLINE

In an ideal world, your child would never post a photo of herself online, but that might not be entirely realistic. If she wants to share photos with her friends via email or a social networking site, be sure you know exactly which pictures are being posted. Make sure the content of the photo is completely innocuous and that no identifiable locales in the background are noticeable.

BE A GOOD EXAMPLE OF HOW TO USE SOCIAL MEDIA

If you are tweeting and updating your Facebook page at a stop light and taking every opportunity to ‘just check something’, you’re setting a poor precedent for social media usage that your child will surely follow. Always remember to ask yourself if you’re setting a good example and demonstrating proper technology etiquette as well.

LIMIT CELL PHONE USE

Just as you would limit use of a computer, TV or gaming system, you can do the same with a cell phone. Set rules for the device, only allowing cell phone usage at certain hours in the evening, or after homework has been completed. If you have teens of driving age, the most important rule to enforce is that under no circumstances should cell phones ever be used while driving. Phones should be kept off so incoming text sounds aren’t a distraction, or should be kept in the glove compartment, out of reach.

TEACH KIDS ABOUT AN ONLINE REPUTATION

Many kids don’t seem to understand the permanence of the online world. Make sure to stress to your kids what a digital footprint is and the impact inappropriate messages or images could have if a future college administrator or employer were to stumble upon them. Source: parenting.com