‘Love Like it Never Happened’: Overcoming the heartache
SOMETIMES WE find ourselves netted in mind-boggling conditions. We’re betrayed, deceived, and abused. Sadly, many times the persons who we expect to protect, love, and support us are the perpetrators. What do we do in such heartbreaking situations where we feel hopeless and defeated?
Simple, love unconditionally. That’s the message Davine Butler, motivational speaker, entrepreneur and now author, proposes as she promotes her book. It’s fittingly called Love Like It Never Happened.
“I always tell people that there is a difference between who I am and what I do. Davine is the mind of God. She is the essence of God, created to bring change and impact in this world. What I do is, I am a wife and a mom,” Butler said.
Her ‘favour’ for writing has been brewing since she was a child. Back then, her dream was to become a well-known actress, as she also had, and still holds, a liking for drama. As she grew, her love for writing expanded even more, especially when she was a student at the Oberlin High School. And her passion was fuelled by the inspirations her now deceased cousin, Novelette, flooded her with.
For most of her childhood she lived with her grandmother, after her mother had moved to Kingston. She grew up in Cavaliers, a rural area in St Andrew, in what she describes as the tales of two families. Her parents lived as neighbours, but reviled each other.
“I don’t know how the disagreement started that caused the separation. I lived beside my father and watched him with his other family. So, at times, I’m over on one side with my mom and I have to be on my ‘Ps and Qs’ to ensure that she doesn’t get offended by anything my father or his family said or did, and vice
versa,” Butler explained.
The result of this was she grew up having a poor relationship with her father. However, several years after, she eventually grew a little closer to him, just days before his untimely passing, almost 20 years ago.
This along with her love and passion for God, which was influenced by the guidance of her grandmother,