‘What he wants’
COLOUR ME inspired by the recent viewing of What Men Want starring Taraji P. Henson, but it got me thinking. Pertaining to relationships, does a woman really know what he wants? And is she willing to sweetly surrender to his amorous desires? Or is it either her way or the highway?
Men yearn for happily ever after, too, and this euphoria can be readily achieved. Here are a few favourable cravings guaranteed to satisfy the seemingly insatiable man.
MEN WANT LOVE
Some women take for granted that because they’re in a relationship with a man, he knows that she loves him. Her mere presence shouldn’t dictate that. She has to find innovative ways of showing him how she feels. Start by finding out his love language and you would’ve begun on solid foundation: it can only get greater from there.
MEN WANT COMPANIONSHIP
It’s not enough to be his girlfriend anymore, he needs a friend, too. Someone he can turn to in his time of need and share his concerns without being judged. Someone who can be a goofball with him too, laughing at all his jokes. Someone who is loyal, has his back and factors gratitude as a must, showing it in personalised ways.
MEN WANT SILENCE
Now, this sounds a little harsh. The fairer sex tends to be the talkers of the relationship, and will always have a lot to say, particularly after a long day. Some things are better left unsaid, and it’s better to sit in silence. If he had an equally hectic day, he may not want to discuss it. Respect his wishes and bask in the quiet – so much can be learned from that unique interaction.
MEN WANT TO BE HEARD (AND UNDERSTOOD)
Often enough in relationships, specifically arguments, what some men say is seen as just noise. Men desire the need to not only be heard, but understood. After all, it is a partnership, so points from both parties should be seriously considered.
MEN WANT GIFTS
If the memes and videos trending on social media on Valentine’s Day weren’t strong enough, let’s just state it for the record: Men want gifts, just-because treats, as well as special-occasion presents. They do not only seek sexual gratification as a means of showing appreciation. So offer sexual favours plus a gift of his choice.
MEN WANT MOTIVATION, AFFIRMATION AND SUPPORT
Like Omi, men want a certified cheerleader who gives unconditional support through words of affirmation and genuine thoughtful actions, too.
MEN WANT TO FEEL APPRECIATED
Which man doesn’t like feeling appreciated, generally or after a good deed? Demonstrate acts of recognition in customised gestures.
MEN WANT FREE TIME
Free time can entertain idle acts, but a relationship or marriage isn’t a prison sentence. Give him the time and space to maintain his individuality, free of nagging and complaint. That’s the ideal balance for happiness.
MEN WANT TRUST
Trust in the cornerstone of any relationship. Without it, you basically have nothing. So, naturally, men require this component to move forward in their pursuit of taking things to the next level. While it is usually earned, if a man feels doubted in any way, it might stifle the growth and development of love.
MEN WANT TLC
A man likes to be pampered too – even if he doesn’t want to admit it. So, giving a massage after a draining day, cooking his favourite meal, taking him out to eat, anything that tickles his fancy and toys with his ‘playboy’ fantasy are warmly welcomed.
ADDED BONUS: MEN WANT SEX
Stating the obvious, right? But some men aren’t privy to this treatment. They are instead encouraged to court in order to make a deeper bond – totally understood. But sexual intercourse is a beautiful and pure expression of love that will greatly assist with strengthening connection. Never take for granted that it can happen at any time. Putting it off is in poor taste of denying him the right to well-needed physical contact. And you will be surprised how much closer you will become if sex is positively placed in the equation in the union.