Women really control the power – not men
LAST WEEK, I tried to tell home truths to men who foolishly believe that they are in charge of a male/ female relationship system called “The Patriarchy”.
There’s no such thing. It’s an illusion created by women so they can embarrass men into submission and continue to rule the world as they’ve done from time immemorial. In order to accomplish this, they must prevail over their toughest rivals: other women! Remember, men are so easy... .
It’s all about power. Men are so effortlessly confused by congenital testosterone distorting brain function that they are easily led by women with vague, even fleeting, promises of estrogenbased reward. This has most men fawning while doing as they’re told.
Lloyd B. Smith is rapidly becoming one of my favourite columnists as he rarely describes a spade as a shovel (or, worse, as a club). On Friday, October 22 ( A Crisis of Leadership), he set out some of the tenets of true leadership. None resonated more with me than the following (a quote from Mandela):
“3) Lead from the back and let others believe they are in front.
‘The trick of leadership is allowing yourself to be led, too. It is wise to persuade people to do things and make them think it was their own idea’.”
Women have known and practised this simple strategy for centuries. Whether we want to admit it or not, most sexual relationships, especially of the heterosexual variety, are rooted in power plays. And despite feminists’ relentless moaning about evil Patriarchy, that clever illusion is essential to some women to achieve “power”, especially over other women. This “power” is obtained using their relationships with men to promote misinformation that heterosexual women (or women prepared to engage in heterosexual relationships) are superior (or have superior opportunities) to women of alternative sexual orientation.
MOST MEN UNAWARE
See me? I have “my man”. He gives me whatever I want! Yu sey he married to you? Bajan, Mighty Gabby, from his monster 1976 hit Needles and Pins:
Miss Betty you mus’ understan’
You got di ring;
I got di real t’ing
That’s di man!
An’ even when yu play at quarrel wit’ he
Di same night he does sleep wid me!
If the Patriarchal fantasy was dispelled, men and women would have to succeed on individual merit. Most men aren’t aware their success is due to vital contributions from women at home and work. Conservative women (53 per cent of white women voted for Dumbo Tramp in 2016 despite his vulgar display of misogyny in the Billy Bush tape) KNOW they’re ill-equipped to compete with many single or alternatively sexually oriented sisters in a meritocracy, so they align themselves to and support the “Patriarchy”, which they KNOW how to manipulate to advantage.
Want to identify which women are for/against “Patriarchy”? Watch how they react if another woman tries to seduce “their” man or if the “chossel” (Bajan for mistress) advises them:
If yu want me to take my place Yu have to learn to wuk up yu waist !
Hell hath no fury… .
Normally Mz Preston, Johnny wife, is a quiet person.
But dis night in question di woman had a big explosion.
Because she see Johnny kissing thru di vest
Tek she knife (wax wax) stab she in she chest.
When Johnny see she down dere in all di pain
He take off like a express train
Even lesbians have been known to occupy carefully constructed, opaque closets; hook-up with or marry wealthy/influential men; and use the men’s “assets” to achieve ambitions, including another illusion called “security”.
An uncomfortable truth: Many man-woman relationships are either loveless (of which the man is usually blissfully unaware) or transactional.
What’s love (got to do) got to do with it?
What’s love but a second-hand emotion?
What’s love (got to do) got to
do with it?
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?
The same fear and ignorance that drive racism forced alternative sexuality underground and fuelled a patriarchal world deception. Since the Garden of Eden, where Eve, with help from a talking snake, easily manipulated Adam into joining her “original sin” by eating her apple (I still insist that’s a biblical typo; more likely a ripe cherry), most women understand that a faux patriarchy suits them perfectly. Real power rarely resides in those who appear to have it but in others operating from shadows to influence power.
Some women publicly flail against patriarchy while privately clinging to men like domesticated felines because they’re more evolved than those men. Many suppress their own sexual orientation(s) in order to please the “right” man while secretly carving out convenient windows for oases of real satisfaction. Some ignorant chauvinists who accuse wives of “cheating” can’t see that it’s with THEM the wife cheats.
CONTRADICTORY NATURE
On Twitter, I read some impressive insight from Delayed But Not Denied “@ YaaAsantewaaBa”:
“When straight women say there are no practical alternatives to upholding patriarchy, they mean they don’t see any alternatives that allow them to hold on to the power proximity to men gives them over queer people and over unpartnered women.
“Until and unless you can talk about patriarchy as a system that affords the people who fall in line with privileges that cannot be accessed otherwise, this conversation will go nowhere. Until we’re honest about the fact patriarchy isn’t based on love/ attraction, we’re stuck.
“Straight women, cishetero women in particular, are simply unwilling to give up the things patriarchy is “supposed” to give them (even when we all see those rewards often don’t materialize). They’re not giving up the social and political benefits of patriarchy.
“That’s simply the truth. And arguing with them that they can still have love/affection/whatever else outside the confines of that system is unconvincing because it isn’t love or affection that they’re truly afraid to lose. It’s systemic power.”
Perhaps unwittingly,
Delayed But Not Denied ex poses the contradictory nature of women’s attitude to Patriarchy. Women can’t agree whether it’s good or evil, so men, who are nothing more than boys grown tall, continue to play with toys and leave hostile gender relations to the lesser advanced among women.
History is replete with examples of women “not giving up the social and political benefits of patriarchy”. Woman-on-woman antagonism based on sexual orientation/political ideology has seen women fighting desperately to maintain Patriarchy. Don’t believe me? Go to any dancehall session and watch the women in the audience gleefully embrace “Patriarchy”.
In the 1970s, a proposed
Equal Rights for Women Amendment (ERA) to the USA’s Constitution was defeated by a coalition of conservative women led by Phyllis Schlaffley, whose anti-ERA campaign platform included calling pro-ERA activists “lesbians” as a belittling slur!
You read right. The ERA was successfully defeated by WOMEN!
So although recognising that they want power over
“queer people and unpartnered women ”, Delayed But Not Denied underestimates calculating women’s anti-feminist impact.
Delayed But Not Denied’s “cishetero” women (look it up; it’s uncomplimentary) would actually join anti-LBGTQ bigots to oppress other women based on sexual orientation even though some secretly share the same alternative orientation. Unlike those who agitated for Christ’s crucifixion, women who support “patriarchy” know exactly what they do. And
Delayed But Not Denied is correct. Love has NOTHING to do with their decisions.
NOT FOOLING ME
Anna Mae Bullock suffered a fatal attraction to a serial abuser (first as ‘Little Ann’; then as ‘Tina’ of Ike and Tina Turner) and violent domestic abuse for twenty years because Ike convinced her that she was nothing without him. But Anna Mae eventually discarded Ike; discovered Who She Really Was with the help of Nichiren Buddhism; and fulfilled her true potential as one of the most independent, strong, fierce female soul singers in history.
I’ve been taking on a new direction
But I have to say
I’ve been thinking about my own protection
It scares me to feel this way. None of corporate, social, or sexual “Patriarchy” is real. Women using men for advancement while pretending to submit to a system they welcome knowing men obey testosterone aren’t fooling me. With men’s inter-gender relations, what you see is usually what you get. And what you see is typically uncomplicated and easily manipulated.
With women, very little is as it appears. Women allege that “Patriarchy” makes them hide their true selves. Nonsense! Whenever women decide to let men see Who They Really Are and claim what’s rightfully theirs, “Patriarchy” will vanish like the Cheshire Cat.
In the meantime, my message to stupid men still looking for “fit and friendly” women amenable to being led hasn’t changed. Don’t! She’s only available in a shop selling inflatable dolls. Instead, try opening your minds to recognizsng synchronicity of auras.
When you experience that rare, deep connection of souls, there’ll be no need for power plays or leadership. You’ll have a genuine partnership, which is an essential ingredient of real happiness.
Peace and Love!