Do love and attachment go together?

LOVE, A profound feeling that binds hearts and souls, often intertwines with the notion of attachment. It seems inseparable: to love is to be attached. Consider the parent-child bond – how could a parent not feel attached to their offspring? Indeed, our understanding of love often hinges on attachment. In today’s lexicon, love equates to attachment.

LOVE VERSUS ATTACHMENT

Attachment implies seeking fulfilment from another. When that fulfilment isn’t forthcoming, the resultant dependency breeds pain. Such a dynamic, fraught with distress, distorts the essence of love. Real love, however, knows only giving. It finds satisfaction in sharing its abundance. Ye, in contemporary society, we often give to receive. Our desire to receive precedes our act of giving. We love, expecting love in return.

Reflect on moments when you have loved unconditionally, when love overflowed from your very being. Such instances are rare. Our interactions are marked by calculation and expectation. We water plants to witness flowers or fruits and keep pets for companionship all the while missing the purity of sharing devoid of expectations. Attachment emerges where voids need filling, sometimes spiralling into addiction. We pay any price to cling to what fills our emptiness.

Spirituality implores us to replenish ourselves daily, to interact from a place of abundance rather than lack. Love, in its purest form, embodies fullness. Attachment, by contrast, seeks fullness externally, leading to a perpetual state of longing.

FREEDOM AND INDIVIDUALITY

Understanding this dichotomy is crucial. Love revels in freedom, granting liberty to others because it is self-sustaining. Pure love brings a state where neither you depend on anyone to fill your emptiness nor do you allow others to depend on you to fill their voids. It enriches the core of being and makes individuals individual. Attachment, masquerading as love, stifles freedom, perpetuating a cycle of dependency. Attachment makes you feel good when someone is dependent on you because through that you feel valued. Though they may appear similar, the inner satisfaction they offer differs vastly.

Let us not mistake attachment for love. Love thrives on freedom, finding joy in sharing without expectation. Love transcends attachment, enriching both the giver and the receiver. Attachment, on the other hand, constantly seeks validation from others to feel complete. Recognising this disparity allows us to navigate life’s intricacies with clarity and grace. As we embrace the true essence of love, we find inner joy and bliss in its boundless abundance, free from the shackles of attachment and misery.

Join us this evening, February 18, for a spiritual talk and mental recharging. Learn meditation – enrich your life with positivity, joy, and love.

Venue: Stella Maris Church, Kingston

Time: 5 pm-6 pm

For further information contact: 876-853-7848

Entry is free