Love transcends forgiveness
LOVE IS often associated with forgiveness, a concept deeply ingrained in our societal beliefs. We have been taught that loving someone means pardoning their mistakes or wrongdoings. But forgiveness only comes into play when we are sure that the other is wrong. It is based on the premise that the other person has erred.
However, what constitutes a mistake or wrongdoing varies from person to person. What may be wrong in one person’s eyes may not be perceived the same way by another.
WHO HAS AUTHORITY TO FORGIVE?
The notion of forgiveness implies that someone holds the authority to absolve others of their wrongs. However, according to the universal ‘law of cause and effect’, every action brings an equal and opposite reaction. It is like planting a seed: if you sow an acacia seed and expect to harvest roses and lilies, you will be disappointed.
Forgiveness, in its conventional sense, often absolves individuals of their responsibility for the consequences of their actions. However, the universe operates on immutable laws, and the ‘law of action and reaction’ applies to everyone, irrespective of their intentions or reasons.
The conventional understanding of forgiveness stems from a lack of awareness of the laws and the inability to take responsibility for our thoughts, emotions, words, and actions. We often shift the blame on to others or seek forgiveness as a means of absolution. However, it begins with self-awareness and accountability. No one else has the power to forgive us for our actions. The key to forgiving oneself lies in refraining from repeating the same mistakes by learning from past experiences. We can’t erase the consequences of past actions, but we can shape our future through the lessons learnt from the past.
LOVE IS COMPASSION
Love, in its true essence, embodies compassion. Divine love teaches us to extend compassion towards both ourselves and others. Self-compassion entails acknowledging our pain without assigning blame to others. It involves taking ownership of our feelings or emotions and releasing ourselves from the burden of sorrow. Similarly, compassion towards others is sending positive vibrations and empowering them to take responsibility for their actions. It is about being aware of the consequences of our actions and taking accountability for our choices.
Love transcends the need for forgiveness. It requires us to embrace responsibility for our actions and extend compassion toward others by seeing them beyond their mere actions. By acknowledging the inter-connectedness of our choices and their consequences, we empower ourselves to break free from the cycle of wrongdoing and remorse. Love is about taking ownership of our lives and striving to act with kindness, integrity, and compassion. It is a journey of self-discovery and self-mastery, where we learn to embrace our unlimited capacity for love and compassion.