Focus on the health of your relationship
HELLO MI neighbour! Let’s not fool ourselves! No need for depression over ageing! If you live long, you will age, and it will show. Like it or not, things will change. Sobering? Your physical features, abilities and capabilities will wane. You will become weaker, less attractive/appealing to members of the opposite sex. That teenage look, agility and cuteness will lag behind. Your picture on the wall and your present reality will never cross path again. Yes, that’s how beautiful/ handsome you were 40 years ago! The chase is over! Laugh louder!
What’s coming up is not a laughing matter, but laugh still, especially if you’ve made it right with your Maker. That’s another topic for another time, but settle it now! They say laughing is better than crying. Good medicine. One of the things that creep up on our ladies as they mature is something called menopause.
Countless millions of women across the globe experience symptoms of menopause every day. The physical, emotional and mental effect of this stage of development is still being investigated. What has been observed, however, is that menopause tends to debilitate relationships. Increased disputes, reduced physical intimacy, poor communication and heightened hostility, which sometimes lead to separation and divorce, are a result of this debilitation. Sad, but for sanity’s sake, laugh out loud! It is important to note that women experience menopause in different ways. For some, it may last for just under a year, while for others it may last for up to 12 years. Really? So they say. Menopause-related symptoms and its severity may vary from one person to the other. Explaining menopause to a husband is hampered by the absence of a blueprint for what it looks and feels like. But husbands must educate themselves on the topic, for peace sake. Heard that husbands? Paying attention to what you are reading here could save your marriage, and so much more! Don’t run away from your menopausal partner in search of fresh love: someone who is slower to anger, more understanding, quicker to listen, less argumentative and more cooperative. If yuh jump out of the frying pan, you may drop in the fyah! BREAKING NEWS:
towards husbands, in many cases, are related. During menopause, many women find themselves becoming angry, particularly where their significant other is concerned. Part of the process, gentlemen. Apply 1 Corinthians 13. Elevation in hormone levels can cause mood swings, sleeplessness and heightened anxiety, making it easy for wives to become overwhelmed and angry.
And let me say this: Ladies, your husband with whom you spend more time and are most comfortable around, will be affected by your angry outbursts! Fortunately, there are measures that can be taken in order to help you get the support you need. Do a little research and pray.
Of note, a large percentage of women who initiate divorce are over 40, the age at which many start to experience perimenopause symptoms. Not saying that menopause/perimenopause and divorce are connected though. Laugh again.
So, however taxing it might be, husbands, focus on the health of your relationship, and leave no stones unturned in your fight to save it. “Fight the good fight with all your might!” No matter what they say, you are in this ship “for better or for worse”, and you must go through menopause together!
Young men, your young spouse may take a little while to get there, but once she is there, it may drag on for a while. But, “love can cover a multiply of sins”. Be prepared for a lot of ups and downs, uncharacteristic behaviour and physiological changes during this time. You will find that she can’t ‘get her act together’. Those rapid changes that she goes through make it almost impossible for her to be normal. Even when she knows she’s being unreasonable in yelling at the drop of a hat, her foot still cannot touch the break…. But guess what? Have to pause here and start working on part 2 for next week. Have fun
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