“This col­umn is a no- judge­ment zone where mi jus talk mi mind and give mi ad­vice!” I AM AFRAID TO FEEL

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afraid to feel.

Yuh tyad, yuh done, yuh numb to all the tricks, the lies and di false pro­files. You can’t tell the dif­fer­ence any­more be­tween what’s fake and what’s real, suh yu keep your true feel­ings to self with no in­ten­tion to re­veal. In­stead of be­ing a hope­less ro­man­tic, you’ve be­come un­emo­tion­ally au­to­matic. Burnt by so many flames from the past, you no longer al­low the emo­tional feel­ings of love to last. The def­i­ni­tion of your heart is cold, as mem­o­ries of your past take its toll. You sabotage any po­ten­tial to ex­pe­ri­ence ‘ true love’ be­cause in your vo­cab­u­lary those two words don’t ex­ist.

How do you re­solve this? How do you be­come less afraid to feel? The day you re­alise that the past is as present as you al­low it to be! I’ve loved, I’ve lost, and I’ve loved again be­cause I not only de­serve to be loved, but I de­serve the ex­pe­ri­ence of giv­ing love. The past does help to sculpt our present, but it doesn’t de­fine it. The beauty about time is that this time you have the free­dom to do love dif­fer­ently. In­stead of be­com­ing numb, be proud that you al­lowed your­self to feel, al­low time to give your wounds some heal­ing, then steadily pace your­self from your past to your present. As in the present is a gift of self aware­ness, still­ness, surety of what you want, who you de­serve and the fact that if you let love in there is a chance to make your present mo­ments much greater than your past mem­o­ries.

Let go of the ‘ then’, live in the now, love in the now, ex­pe­ri­ence all the feel­ings you can, as now is all we are guar­an­teed to have. FEEL FREE TO CHAT WITH ME BY EMAIL­ING ME AT KEEPINGITREALRENNAE@ GMAIL. COM OR


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