I’M LIVING WITH A MARRIED MAN “

Dear Pastor, I am a regular listener of your radio show and I enjoy it. I am living with a Jamaican man, but he has his wife and children in Jamaica.

Sometimes I get very jealous of this woman, although I have never met her. It is hard for me to let this man go because I have grown to love him. He treats my children well.

He loves them as his own. I told him that I would love to visit Jamaica with him. He said that would be trouble.

My two children do not know that he is married and that his wife lives in Jamaica. We decided that we would not t ell t hem t hat he is married.

At first when we met, he was staying with his brother and his brother’s wife and children, but the convenience there was not good. I invited him to come and stay with us.

I am living in a four-bedroom house. He came and started to help me pay the mortgage. Before I realised what was happening to me, we were sleeping together.

He is 50 and I am 45. I don’t know how the relationship is going to end. I was married but divorced and I am getting support for me and my children.

It is hard for me to give up this good man. He is well brought up. Do you have any ideas you can give me?

T.S. Dear T.S., Every woman wants a good man, and the man with whom you are living is a good man. You know that for sure. The only problem is that legally he is not your own, and it is only a matter of time before he leaves you permanently. He has already told you that he is married and you know that he is not leaving his wife. Although you have not said it, I assume that this man has filed for his wife and children and they will join him in America soon. You do not