My wife’s too boring in bed

Dear Pastor, I am 35 years old and my wife is 40. My wife has children. I do not have any.

I spent nine years living with a woman. After six years of friendship, we broke up because nothing was happening.

I got married to my present wife after she invited me to church, but my marriage is boring.

Everything I try to get her to do in bed, she can’t be bothered. She lies down on the bed like a log when we are having sex.

At times, I feel for sex more than one time for the night and she quarrels about it. Since I met this woman and became a Christian, I never cheated on her.

It is work, to church, then home. She is weighing 20 pounds more than she used to.

I am too ashamed to tell you what I have been doing with her right there on the bed. That is not right, but she doesn’t care.

Pastor, my ex-girlfriend who couldn’t have children was very great in bed. She used to try new things in bed and we enjoyed it.

Some months ago, I asked my wife to do the doggy style (back shot) and she said, “Afta mi ah nuh dawg”.

I wonder what you can tell me to do, because I am so fed up with this woman.

R.C. Dear R.C., Perhaps your wife believes that Christians should not do anything different, and that sex should just be a routine and it is wrong to engage in different positions.

That is what many people believe. They do not see sex as something to enjoy. They consider sex only for procreation.

I want you to tell your wife that the Bible says that a man must enjoy his wife and she ought to enjoy him.

A man’s wife must satisfy him and he ought to satisfy her, and they should never let boredom take over their relationship.

Here i s what t he Bible says about how to be happily married.

First Corinthians, Chapter 7 in the amplified version, says: “ women who do not seek to satisfy their husbands would lose them. Try your best to find a family counsellor and discuss these problems before things get worse. A normal sex life is very essential, and it is the highest expression of love between a man and his wife. Space does not allow me to say more on this matter. So, please, see a family counsellor for more guidance. Pastor