Lusting after my brother’s widow

Dear Pastor, I had a brother who was married. He left two lovely daughters behind. Members of the family decided to help the widow, but what they are giving is not much.

I am not married, but I am working. I have a girlfriend who is living in Canada. She sends money sometimes to help with the children.

My brother was not able to buy a house, so his widow is paying rent. He passed on and did not leave much. His wife is working for a meagre salary, but she is trying.

I find myself loving this woman. We have not gone to bed, but she is always encouraging me to stay over when I visit them, especially on weekends.

I have done it a few times. The last time I was there, I stayed in the children’s room and she said to me that next time I should stay in her room and let the children stay by themselves.

I said OK, but I have not gone back at night to visit her because I am afraid to get involved with her.

One day I asked her whether she would get married again and she said yes, she would marry me.

I said, “I beg you pardon?” You did not hear what I said?” She said “Yes, I heard you.” She would marry me.

TRYING TO KEEP AWAY

My imagination is running away with me now, Pastor. She knows that I am trying to keep away from her.

She even suggested that we can have a secret relationship and my girlfriend would not have to know.

My reason for writing you is to ask you if it is illegal for a brother to marry his brother’s widow.

M.T.