Can’t choose between my boyfriend and babyfather

Dear Pastor, This is the second time I am writing to you. I wrote to you when I was in high school, and I have followed you on your radio show.

I am now 22 years old. I have one child, and I am living in the United States. My son is living with his father in Jamaica. His father is in love with me, but I am not in love with him.

I have a boyfriend in the US. He treats me better than my child’s father. My boyfriend wants us to get married, but I promised my child’s father that I would come back to Jamaica and marry him and then file for him. I want to keep my promise, but I don’t know what to do.

My son likes his father. I don’t hate him, but the man I am dating is a better man. He is caring, loving and kind. He just bought a home for the both of us, and we are attending the same church.

Pastor, I would like you to tell me what to do. My babyfather does not know that I have a boyfriend, but my boyfriend here knows about my child.

My boyfriend is 30. His parents are from one of the islands, and they love me. He was once married, but he is divorced. He has two daughters.

Do you think I should tell my child’s father that he should try to find another girlfriend?

W.T. Dear W.T.,

You should tell your child’s father that you are in love with another man and you do not think that it is fair for you to have him in the dark.

He is going to be disappointed, but it is better for him to know now that you have decided to make a life with another man. Assure him that you will never keep his child away from him.

I hope that your child’s father will understand and will not do anything to prevent you from taking your child to live with you.

Pastor