My boyfriend doesn’t trust me

Dear Pastor, I am having a problem. I am only 19 years old and I want to be a massage therapist. My boyfriend is a trained therapist.

He is my lover and he has been training me in a practical way to massage him and he has been teaching me the job.

I have been staying with him and whenever he comes home, before doing anything, he wants both of us to shower and to massage each other.

I have got to like doing this type of work. I saw in the papers that young girls are needed to work in massage parlours.

But when I talk to my boyfriend about doing this type of work, he is terribly against it. He said that I would make a good therapist, but I could only practise on him.

He is very selfish, because he has to be supporting me and I could make money and support myself.

My boyfriend says lots of things go on in some of these parlours and he does not want me taking off my clothes Dear P.T., Your man told you that you ought not to consider this type of work and if you love him, you would listen to him; and I suggest that you obey him.

If you don’t care and you are after more money than what he can give to you, then this relationship will break up. You should learn to exercise common sense.

This man knows that there are different types of parlours. Some do not engage in sex at all, but others are mainly sex shops, if I may describe them that way; that are operating under the disguise of before any of these men, because anything can happen after that.

Pastor, it is true because when my boyfriend massages me, I feel so relaxed and sometimes helpless, and he can do whatever he wants with me.

Where my boyfriend works is not a bad place, but my friends have told me that what some of the customers are interested in is not the massage, it is the sex.

My boyfriend tells me that I have a beautiful body and he doesn’t want any man messing with me. He said he would never trust me if I go to work in any of these places.

I want him to trust me. I would never let him down, but I don’t understand why he doesn’t believe me. I am not interested in doing any other type of work right now.

If I trust him and he is in this type of work, why can’t he trust me to get a job in a parlour to massage people and not go further? Tell me why he is like that.

P.T. being parlours.

So listen to your boyfriend and be wise. If you want your boyfriend to love and trust you, try not to give him the impression that you like to have your own way, doing what you want to do at any time.

Pastor