My ex wants me back

Dear Pastor, I am a regular reader of your column, and I always try to stay up at nights to listen to your radio programme. I find your radio show very interesting, but I read your column over and over every week. Sometimes I take THE STAR with me to work and read over what you said while I am having my lunch. I am 19 years old, and my boyfriend is 30 years old. We are living together. I don’t have any children, but he has two.

He was living with the mother of these children, but she used to disrespect him and tell him whatever came to her mouth. He slapped her a few times and she took up a stone and said she was going to smash the windows of his car. People held her and took her away. He went to complain to her parents and her father took her side and told him he had no right to hit his daughter. He put her things out, but he wanted her to leave the children. She wouldn’t give them up, so they broke up.

A few days after, he took a truck and took all the furniture that he had to her father’s home and gave them to her. He said he did not want his children to Dear A.S., Let me first address the age difference. Your present boyfriend is 30 years old and you are 19 years old. If the both of you are in love and both of you believe that you have a future together, you should not be concerned what other people would say about you. In fact, in your situation, his age might even help you, because he is more mature and he has a stable job. Therefore, he should be able sleep on the floor, so he took the bed, dresser, refrigeration and the stove to her. He was sleeping on the floor when I met him. The first time I had sex with him, we did it on the floor. He is a security guard. He told me he had made up his mind not to have anymore woman in his life for a while, but after meeting me, he changed his mind.

I had a boyfriend and he got me pregnant, but I lost the baby. People to give you the type of assistance you would need. He seem to be ambitious. Therefore, both of you should be able to work together. I like the fact that he is allowing you to go to school.

Concerning the break-up with his children’s mother, it is always sad to see couples go apart. He was wrong to slap her up. But I must congratulate him for giving her all the furniture and appliances so that she told him that I threw the belly away and he believed them. He was anxious to get me pregnant again. He said that is the only thing that would make him feel satisfied. I did not want to get pregnant again so soon, so I left Manchester and came to Kingston. I stayed with a friend until I ran into this man and decided to give this relationship a chance.

This man is bright. He wanted to go could enjoy a measure of independence and not depend on what her parents own. I hope that he will continue to support his children very well. Please encourage him to do so.

And please, make sure that you continue to go to school. In fact, both of you should try and go back to school. He wants to go to university. He should discuss this with his employers and see whether he can continue to to university, but he is from a poor family and he didn’t have the money. His children’s mother was not ambitious, so the little money he made had to stretch to get everything.

TOO OLD FOR ME

I am doing a part-time job. I don’t have any passes. I am going to school three days per week. One of the ladies I work for told me that I should leave my boyfriend because he is too old for me. I can’t do that, pastor, because although my mother is poor, all five of us belong to one father.

Do you think that this guy is too old for me? He treats me well and he does not leave all the work on me. On Saturdays when he is not working, he helps me clean and wash. I told him that he should not wash, I will do the washing. He helps me to cook. He cooks better than I do.

My old boyfriend got my number from one of my sisters and he told me that he must get me back, but I am not going back to him at all. Pastor, is my boyfriend too old for me? My boyfriend doesn’t want to get me pregnant because he cannot support anymore children now, so I am on the Pill.

A.S. work with the company and go to school. And you are going to need your passes or some sort of skill to get a better job.

This man is a good man. He is willing to help you to do house chores, etc. The relationship that you had with your old boyfriend is dead, so do not encourage him to call you. Block his number from your phone. I wish you well.

Pastor