My woman left me for sleeping with her friend

Dear Pastor, It is hard for me to write this letter to you because I never thought that I would have to do so. However, I am about to lose my girlfriend of two years because of a mistake I made. I am in my third year at university, and I am doing well. But, I am so messed up, really messed up.

I cheated on my girlfriend, and I did so with one of her friends. She considers this girl one of her closest friends. But this girl has always told me that she loves me. I always say to her, “We belong to different people.”

This girl was hoping to fly to the United States from Norman Manley International Airport on an early flight. She asked me if I could take her to the airport early in the morning, and I told her that I would. I told her I would pick her up, and she agreed. Then, she changed her mind and told me that she would come to my place and stay, and then, I could take her to the airport. I didn’t tell my girlfriend about the new plan. A friend who knows my girlfriend took her to my place at about 10 p.m., and then, he called my girlfriend while she was at work and told her that he dropped her friend at my place.

I tried to behave myself, but the girl was all over me. I told her that I had never cheated, and she said that that would be the first time. I slapped her, but she insisted that we have sex. So, I gave in, and we had sex. My girlfriend has keys to my apartment, and at about midnight, she came into the apartment and caught us in bed in the nude. I turned into a fool. All she wanted to do was beat the girl. My girlfriend called her a slut and tried to beat her, but her friend said to her, “If you hit me, I will beat the life out of you and take this man from you.”

I have never loved a girl as much as my girlfriend, and although this girl did things that my girlfriend has never done to me, she is not wife material. But my girlfriend has taken away every piece of clothing she had at my place, everything. She won’t even return my calls. I cannot live without my girlfriend. She even used some expletives to me when I showed up at her workplace. I don’t know what to do, so I turn to you for help.

R.E. and that alone should have caused you to be extra careful. By giving her keys, you gave her the right to come and go at any time.

This young lady caught you off guard. And you shouldn’t behave as if she raped you. She didn’t. But right now, you should be the humblest man in the world. Text your girlfriend once per day, and tell her you love her. But don’t say anything negative about the young woman. By the way, when the young woman calls you, don’t blame her for what happened. Just tell her that you are working on your relationship, but nothing more.

Whenever your girlfriend is willing to talk to you, even if it takes one or two years, ask her if she is willing to see a family counsellor with you. If she says yes, you have won back her heart. But you have not yet won her trust.

Pastor