My mother-in-law hates me

Dear Pastor I have been friendly with a girl for two years. I am 20 and she is 22. Her mother used to be one of my teachers in high school.

She used to encourage students to come by for extra lessons. She was good at math.

Her daughter and I became friends and her mother did not say anything about it. She used to give the extra lessons on Saturday, but because I was living close by, I could go there anytime.

Sometimes when I went by, I was the only student. If she had to go out, she would leave work for me to do, and I used to help her daughter with her house chores.

We started to fool around. I don’t know how this girl and I got carried away one Saturday.

Her mother nearly caught us having sex. We had just finished when I looked through the window and saw the mother coming.

My girlfriend dashed into the bathroom and I sat around the dining table pretending that I was studying. My pants was not properly pulled up and the zip was down and I was sweating.

Her mother asked me why I was sweating so much and why my zip was down. She asked for her daughter, and I told her she was in the bathroom.

She went into the bathroom and was talking to her daughter. She saw the condom package and told me that I should leave and not come back to her house unless she was at home.

My girlfriend told me that after I left, her mother beat her up because she hadn’t flushed the condom in the toilet.

This girl and I continued to be friends. I was her first boyfriend. I took her virginity. Whenever we had the opportunity, we had sex. She is now pregnant for me. Dear L.T., I don’t believe that your girlfriend’s mother hates you. I believe that she is just disappointed in her daughter.

Her daughter is older than you, and she believes that she should have been much more careful and not to get involved emotionally and sexually with you.

Parents want the best for their children. Your girlfriend’s mother wants the best for her, and now that

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My mother loves her. Her mother and I are having a better relationship now, but she feels that her daughter could have done better.

Her mother told her that I am turning out better than she thought, but I have a long way to go to be the son-in-law that she wanted to have.

I want to join the police force. My girlfriend will have the baby in August.

Her mother told her that I will have to find a place to put my girlfriend because she (the mother) needs her room to rent so that she can earn some money.

My girlfriend told her that she would rent the place, but she said no because I would come there, and she doesn’t want any man to come to her house to sleep with her daughter.

Pastor, do you think that it is right? She will be paying her own rent. Why can’t I, as the babyfather, come there to sleep? She just hates me.

L.T. she is pregnant, her mother believes that she has let her down and she should leave her house.

Perhaps she was hoping that a man would marry her and both of them would have their own home and visit her occasionally.

She didn’t want her daughter to get pregnant and still live in her house. I hope you can understand that. So, I want you to understand how she feels.

What has happened cannot be changed, and you should try and understand how a mother feels. This young woman is only 22.

Therefore, I would suggest that you ask an older person to speak to your girlfriend’s mother.

Ask one of her female friends or a pastor to reason with her to allow her daughter to stay at home until the baby is much older, and until she is in a position to rent her own house.

People make mistakes, but throwing out her daughter is throwing out her own blood, and that is a very bad idea.

Pastor