Relationship goals

With all the time and effort that we put in making our jobs, cars, homes and appearance better, we sometimes forget to place the same amount of effort into our relationships.

As a matter of fact, once we confirm that we have a committed partner, most of us stop putting effort into spending quality time together, dating each other, or even just making the time to have meals together.

So, as we begin the second half of the year, what are you, doing to improve the intimacy in your relationship? Here are some suggestions: Set a long-term goal — Make a plan to do something together in a few months, just the two of you, that involves you going somewhere and spending some real time together. A cruise is a good example.

Celebrate a relationship milestone — As a couple, it’s easy to get so involved in day-today living that time passes and certain milestones are missed. Take a moment to look at what you have achieved together as a couple, and celebrate.

Establish a date night, put it in your schedule, and keep it — With your busy schedules, it’s not always possible to be spontaneous. Setting a date and putting it in your schedule will allow for planning and will also give notice to everyone else that you are not available.

Establish a tech-free zone and time at home — Technology is great and necessary, but it can sometimes be a source of conflict and distraction for couples. So, while at home, establish a tech-free zone where devices are not allowed. Use the time to actually be with each other. Talk about the day you had, watch a funny movie you both like, and laugh together.

Step outside of your comfort zone — It’s very easy to get bored sexually as a couple, especially when you have been together for a long time. It’s even more challenging to keep an active, exciting sex life with a busy, demanding work schedule and children. These couples have to be proactive about maintaining their sexual connection. Get creative. Take the sex out of the bedroom. Invest in some toys, and try something that you think is taboo.

I recognise that this advice is geared towards persons in relationships, but single persons can benefit from some introspection as well. So, let’s start actively participating in our happiness and living our best lives. Send your questions or comments to sexychatwithshelly@gmail.com or tweet me @drsexyann. Facebook: www.facebook.com/allaboutthesexy Website: www.drsexyann.com