Wife is convinced I am cheating

Dear Pastor, I am a 28-year-old man, and I have been married for almost two years, but my wife and I have been together for more than three years.

I have a situation that really needs your advice. Before getting to know her, I used to flirt and talk to many females, some as friends, but I was intimate with some.

All these females would still have my number from that time.

When my wife and I met, I intended to cut them off because I didn’t want them to destroy my relationship with her.

Some strange numbers started to call me, and I told my wife the situation. I decided to change my number because even if I just do my regular routine from work to home and spend every single moment with her, I am still being accused of cheating or having someone else.

Even now that we are married, we have to seek counselling because she keeps saying that I am hurting her feelings and having someone else. Every female she sees, she asks if I know her.

Every single thing that happens between us, she always says that I am the cause of the problem or argument, and I am the one who is hurting her.

When she asks some unnecessary questions and she doesn’t get an answer, she gets upset, and whenever I ask her about anything, she doesn’t want to answer.

She starts an argument even if she calls me while I am at work and she doesn’t get me. She knows the type of job I do and the time it takes up.

I try my best to give her all the attention that she needs. If she’s at work and she is busy, I still try my best to text or call her.

I feel really unappreciated because of the time and effort I put in to making her happy. Yes, I have my faults.

When I am home during the day and she is at work, I have her on WhatsApp video call right throughout the day, and I still get accused of cheating.

Please, I am asking you for your advice on this situation because I love her. and I don’t want my marriage to end.

J.R