Mom hates my boyfriend because he’s black

Dear Pastor, Good day to you, I am writing to you for your advice. I have a boyfriend and he is treating me very well, but most of my family don’t like him.

He is short and dark-skinned. I am of light complexion, and my mother is of light complexion, too. Whenever I talk about him, my mother tells me not to call his name around her.

My father is not brown, but not very black either. My boyfriend is bright. He is 22 and I am 18. He is in university and I am entering very soon.

I am a Christian, but he is not. He asked me for sex and I told him that he should wait. He wants to know for how long. I told him when I am ready I will tell him.

My mother told my father, in my presence, that she believes that I am going to bring home a ‘belly’ and she is not going to take care of any baby, especially if it were my boyfriend who gave me the ‘belly’.

When I checked it out, my mother had her first child when she was 18. Every time we have a mother-daughter talk, she has to warn me about sex.

My sister is only 15 and already she has a boyfriend. My mother is not saying anything about that because the guy is brown and he comes from uptown.

She even has his picture in the room that we share together. When I begin university, I want to stay on campus because I know that my mother doesn’t like me and my boyfriend.

So, the best thing for me and my boyfriend is to stay away from her.

I am accepted by my boyfriend’s family. I am not a bad girl, but I am unhappy because my mother does not like my boyfriend.

C.P.