Husband beat me because I asked about his affair

Dear Pastor, I need to talk to someone about what I am going through. In 2006, I travelled from Jamaica to one of the small islands. While I was there, I met a man, and he, too, was from Jamaica, but he had been living there for a long time. I was working at a restaurant when I met him. He came to the restaurant regularly, and he would start conversations with me. He would invite me out. At first, I would refuse, but after a while, I went out with him.

This man was such a nice man, or should I say, I thought he was a nice man. He convinced me to leave my job and move in with him. I went back home in 2008, and we got married. But that was one of the biggest mistakes I have ever made. This man turned out to be controlling and abusive. I can’t keep friends, and I can’t go anywhere.

Pastor, this man treats me like I am his child. In 2014, I came back to live with him, and I started to work. I found out that he had been cheating on me with many different women. One of the women contacted me and told me about their affair. I spoke to him about it, and he hit me and damaged my ear. But I stayed because I love him. I can’t voice my opinion. He is sterile, but he is telling people that I am the one who can’t have children. He says so many bad things about me, and it hurts me.

The funniest thing is that I stayed because I am working. I used the job to feel happy. But for the past two years, I have been falling out of love with my husband. I no longer love him. Last year, we fought, and he hit me, saying that I was involved with another man. To tell you the truth, Pastor, I have never cheated on him. And even though he is 20 years older than I am, I have nothing but respect for him.

Last year, realised that I no longer want to be with him. I want a child. I want to move on and live a better life. I am 37 years old, and I was brought up to be honest and respectful. To cut a long story short, I noticed that I have started to change. I don’t speak to him if I don’t have anything to say. I am afraid of him. He doesn’t help me do anything. I work 14 hours per day, and most times, he is at home not doing anything. On my days off, I have to wash, cook and physically abusing you, and one day, he might just knock you out totally and kill you. No man should be physically abusing his woman. And, as you said, you do not love him anymore. Therefore, I believe that you need to see a lawyer and discuss divorce. clean. I am tired of taking care of him. I feel like a maid. I am so tired.

For a big man, I am so disappointed in him. His mouth is nasty. He has no respect for me. After all these years of holding on to a marriage that sometimes made me feel like talking my life, I am now ready to let it go. There is so much more to say, but I don’t have any more time as I am on the job. Thanks for reading. Keep up the good work.

J.W.

I hate to tell you that that’s what you have to do, but it is my responsibility to tell you the truth about this man. Please divorce him. I look forward to hearing from you again.

Pastor