Obeah man warned me about getting married again

Dear Pastor, Every day something new happens to me, and I am wondering if what the spiritual man told me is true. I am 32 years old, and I am married to a man that I know well.

When I was in my early 20s, we were boyfriend and girlfriend, and we slept together. But I didn’t really want him as a husband because he used to smoke too much, and regardless of how much I begged him to stop, he wouldn’t. He used to love to kiss. I forced myself to kiss him over and over.

But, regardless how much I brushed my teeth and used mouthwash, the cigarette scent and taste were still in my mouth. Another problem I had with my husband was that he could never bring home any money. He didn’t save a cent. I also know that he had other women. One of the girls was very young, and I asked him what he was doing with her; she was half his age. After a while, I realised that he had been giving her his money.

We got a divorce but remained friends. He got another girlfriend, and I found another man. The man I am with is very jealous, and he is always watching me. I don’t cheat on him, but he so silly. If I talk to any man, he questions me. He is a tailor, but he never spends money on himself. I bought material and gave it to him for him to make suits for himself so that we could go to church. It has been more than a year now, and he has not bought even one suit.

NO INTEREST IN MARRIAGE

Pastor, I would love to get married again, but this man is not interested in that, and the spiritual man told me that I will never hold money and I will never be happy if I get married again.

Pastor, I am working so hard, but I can’t hold any money. This is not natural. The spiritual man and his woman gave me a bath over a year ago to see if things could change, but nothing has changed. I almost lost my house, but it was saved by my relatives. I have stopped taking things from people because I am afraid that they will obeah me.

The man I am living with said that he would consider marrying me if I stopped going to a certain church. He wants me to go to a Revivalist church.

Pastor, give me your advice. I am a good woman, and I don’t hurt anybody.

U.G. who smoke. We know that smoking is not good for one’s health. Neither is excessive drinking.

I suppose some women just like to know that they have a man in their lives. But those who are like you don’t need just any man, they need good men. You lived with your husband and now claim that he is not a good man. You are now living with another man, and you are unhappy. I suggest that you ask this man that you are living with to see a family counsellor with you. If you see that he is not interested in doing so, you should prepare to leave him. I wish you well.

Pastor