Husband accused me of sleeping with my worker

Dear Pastor, I hope that you will answer this letter. You are the one who officiated at my wedding. It was such a beautiful ceremony, and I thank you. My marriage went smoothly for a long time, but my husband suddenly changed. He told me that I could not satisfy him anymore.

Pastor, I am in my 40s, and my husband is the same. I have done everything to please my husband, but my husband has done well financially, and he is wasting his money. He does not pay me much attention anymore. My friends talk to him, my relatives have talk to him, and we have gone together for counselling. What my husband has done to me, I can never forget. He told the counsellor that he does not cheat. He said that I am the cheater and that I am keeping men with him. I almost fainted when I heard the things my husband said about me.

We have a business together, and my husband accused me of having a sexual relationship with one of the workers. He knows that is not true. No one has ever raised that with me. The counsellor was amazed. I had no defence except to say that he was lying. This man knows that with me, it is home to work, work to home or to church. For him to tell the counsellor that I am with one of my workers is too much to carry. You should hear my husband in that counselling session. He was so convincing. When the counsellor asked him if he had ever raised my cheating to me and what did I say, and he said that I denied it. I don’t think I can stay with this man anymore. He is too dangerous. I told the counsellor that I would bring the man that my husband accused me of cheating with and who is working in the business, and my husband said that I can do what I want. After we went to see the counsellor and I heard the lies that he told him, I have moved out from the matrimonial bedroom. He seemed to be so happy with what he has done. I am thinking of divorcing him, pastor. Initials withheld. Dear Writer, You did not expect your husband to tell such blatant lies. It would have been better if he had not gone to the counselling session than to make up such wicked lies on you and to embarrass you. He could have told you that he is not going to attend the session. But, he probably lied because he is looking a way out of the marriage. You should have a quiet conversation with him and tell him that when you got married, you did not intend for you and your husband to get a divorce. But as it stands now, it does not appear that there is any future in this marriage for both of you. Tell him that you are planning to see a lawyer for advice and what is legally yours, and what you hope to receive without a stinky legal battle. Pastor