Why is she not into me?

Dear L.E., I am sorry to hear that your father is not doing well. But I congratulate you for doing your best to assist your father. You have denied yourself an education while taking care of your dad. You are a good young lady, and you will be blessed.

The young man with whom you have had a relationship has behaved as a fool and you should not continue to have anything with him. He has physically abused you; therefore, you shouldn’t have anything more to do with him. Concerning this married man who has been assisting you, I know you need the help but I don’t want to encourage this relationship. What I think you should do instead is to try your very best to get a job.

Your father’s health has improved. Therefore, he might not require your full attention. So even if you would not be able to do a full-time job, you could work part-time and help yourself to go back to school.

And this man you met on this dating site is not a good man. Don’t be a fool; don’t send him any nude picture of yourself. He is not the type of man you would want to be your husband.

I wish you well. Let me hear from you again.

Pastor Dear Pastor, I am 50 years old and I have a lady friend. Whenever I go to see her, she is always playing Christian music. I asked her why is it that she can’t play other music and she said she enjoys Christian music more than any other because she feels relaxed. If I try to sit next to her, she pulls away. I asked her if she is scorning me and she says no, but I am not a believer, and she could only get involved with a believer.

I love this woman, but why does she calls me an unbeliever?

W.D. Dear W.D., You should try and use wisdom. This woman is a Christian and she loves her gospel songs. Therefore, when you go to visit her, enjoy the songs. Don’t criticise her for listening to these songs. If you don’t want to hear the songs, then don’t visit her. She calls you an unbeliever because she knows that you have not embraced Christ as your Saviour and Lord. After you have done so, the relationship between the both of you should improve.

Don’t try to force her into any intimate relationship, because she would reject you. I wish you well.

Pastor