Sleeping with my church sister’s man

Dear Pastor, Greetings to you and your staff. I read your column often and I need your advice. I also listen to your radio show and I enjoy it. I am 26 years old. I do not have any children. I grew up in a home where my father planted ganja to support us. He was not educated, but he saw to it that we went to school. I left school with seven CSEC passes. After my father became ill, my plans to go to college didn’t materialise because I have been taking care of him. I am the only girl he has. I have a boyfriend and he helps me, but I find myself not liking him anymore because he punched me in my face once and burst my lips. I am cheating on him with another guy who is married. His wife and I go to the same church, but she doesn’t know that we are having a relationship.

I told my father that I didn’t want my boyfriend to come to the house, but he still comes around. The guy that I am having an affair with is very reliable and when I need to get around, he takes me.

My father wants me to get married. I met another guy on a dating site. We have been talking, but I don’t know how to trust him. He wants me to send him pictures of myself. And he even wants me to send nude photos, but I have not done so. I am not that type of girl. I don’t know what he would do with them.

The married man has promised to give me money to go back to school now that my father is feeling much better. Do you think that I should take his money? Please give me your advice. L.E.,