My former man’s relatives are trying to kick me out

Dear J, Very often, it is not the mothers who encourage these girls to go out and seek help. It is the girls who have seen that there is not much future for them unless they do a little hustling for themselves.

However, there are times when women do send their daughters out to become sexually involved with men for money.

Many girls have told me that their mothers told them it was time for them to go out and ‘take man’.

Some girls become very promiscuous, they move from man to man to earn a daily bread, so to speak. The younger men were only interested in having sex with them, giving them a little money (nothing substantial) and the girls ended up having children.

So it is not unusual to see a young woman in her late 20s who has five children.

On the other hand, others seek older men who have good jobs and some of these men are even married but they can afford to support them, educate them and send them back Dear Pastor, Some young girls from poor families start intimate relationships with big men who pay their school fees.

These girls are also seeking a father figure. Some mothers encourage this type of behaviour.

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I might add that some of these men give these girls enough money to help to support their parents.

I am not encouraging this type of lifestyle but I am saying that it is not always because a girl is ‘bad’ why she becomes involved with a married man or a man who is much older than herself.

That is why every man should support his children and should only have the number of children he can support.

Pastor Dear Pastor, I am 45 years old and I am having a problem. I was living with a man from I was 20. The two of us were in business.

He was not such a good reader but he loved me. We worked hard. He became ill and I had to carry on the business alone. He was 10 years older than I am. His relatives never helped me.

When he died, his relatives said that I killed him to get what he had. This man made a will and gave me everything.

Now they want to fight me for everything. When he died, nobody gave me anything to help with the burial. I had to stand the cost but I did without making a fuss.

My biggest problem now is that I have a gentleman coming around. This man is helping me with the business and he stays with me to protect me.

Now the relatives of my late partner are saying that I have brought a man into their relative’s house, and that is not right.

They would have to kill me to get me out of here because I know that it is the house that they want.

J.L. Dear J.L., You lived in a common-law relationship for a very long time. But your husband did a very wise thing by making a will. By making a will, he has protected you from his relatives, who now want to come in and claim what they never worked for.

It is human for you to feel discouraged and depressed. But please learn to stand firm. These people who are accusing you of doing wrong are just wicked and out of order.

Please go to a lawyer, he or she would defend you and protect you. You don’t have to curse the relatives of the deceased. Don’t answer them.

The will is enough, it should be probated. I hope the executors of the will would do what they ought to do.

I repeat, don’t worry about what people are saying about you.

Pastor