Younger women are gold diggers

Dear Pastor,

I was listening to you recently on your radio show were talking about love. I am in my 30s and what I can tell you is that women don’t love anymore. They only want what they can get from men, and if you can’t give them big money, they are gone. So, no love is around again.

If a man is looking for love, he has to look to an older woman who has enough money. She would probably be married and have her house and her husband may be died, or she divorced him and she is at the stage where she needs a man now and then.

TAKING CARE OF MEN

There are women like that. They would even take care of men who would help them in different ways, but they are not looking for money from these men.

I know an older woman who is like that. We are not living together, but if I call her and ask her for help, she gives it to me.

I don’t have to give her any money and whenever she calls me, and I am available, I go to her or we meet up somewhere. She is twice my age. We don’t go everywhere, just where she wants to meet me, or if she wants me to come to her house.

I know you are not in favour of that, but the younger women just want all the money a man can give them. They want to do their hair, nails and everything, but they don’t want to have any responsibilities. So us men who have been bitten by young women will stick with older women.

T.L.

Dear T.L.,

I can’t argue with you about what you have experienced. I know women have told me that they don’t want to be in permanent relationships anymore. Some time ago, I was officiating at a wedding at the First Baptist Church. One of the witnesses told me that she was married.

She had a very good job. She told me what type of work she did. But she said that she and her husband didn’t live together.

They were not separated in the sense that they didn’t want to have anything to do with each other. She said she lived by herself and he lived by himself in separate houses.

However, when she wanted him she called him. He would come over to where she lives or she would go to him.

She said, “Pastor, I can’t live with a man every day of my life. Every day I get up I see him; no, I don’t want that type of life.”

According to her, she is not cheating on her husband and he is not cheating on her. But she is a busy woman and she does not want him to get in her way or in the way of her job.

Readers would be surprised to know what type of work this woman does. She has a prominent job and she is well known.

What I am trying to say is that you might be right. There are some young women who are only interested in men’s money.

But some older women only want a man when they feel for a man (you know what I mean). You are enjoying that type of life right now. This older woman is in full control of you.

I am not going to encourage you to live like that, because the day is going to come when she is going to get fed up of you and you will get fed up of her.

And if she has children, they would see to it that she does not spend all her money on you. So although you believe that younger women are ‘ginnals’, not all of them are like that. Find one with whom you can make life and settle down.

Pastor