Jealous married boyfriend abusing me

Dear Pastor,

I am in a relationship. I am 24 and my babyfather is 28. We live together, but he is married to an American woman. She is older than he is by far.

He says the marriage is for opportunity. Before I got pregnant, he was the best boyfriend in the world; now he is a devil.

He is jealous and insecure. He doesn’t want me to have friends. When I was pregnant, we fought and he hit me.

I wash, cook and clean. He even wants me to wash his shoes every two months.

Whenever his wife comes to Jamaica, I have to stay by my mom, or at the house he rents that she doesn’t know about.

I am tired. He even cheated on me recently. After I had the baby, I saw the evidence of his cheating in his underwear.

He said he didn’t cheat, but I knew he did. I even dreamed about it, and the girl has called his phone.

It seems as if she is a young girl, too. I know he loves me. He says he just wants better for me and our son. I am always there for him, but I can’t take his cheating and jealous ways.

And he hits me, too; he even sent me to the hospital when I was five months pregnant. Every time he hits me, he sits and cries like a baby and says he never means to.

But he continues to do it if I say something he doesn’t like. I am so stressed and I have to breastfeed, and that is not good for me. I need your advice.

S.M.

Dear S.M.,

You are 24 years old. You should not continue to let this man make a fool of you. You should end the relationship with this man. He is an outof-order man. He is fooling you.

He wants you to believe that you should just keep quiet and wait until his wife takes him away and then everything would be fine for you.

I doubt what he is telling you would work. Break up this thing now. Go out and get yourself a job. I warn you, don’t depend on this man.

Tell your mother what is going on. Don’t hide anything from her. And anytime this man hits you again, have him arrested.

Pastor