I ‘tied’ a man, now he won’t leave me alone

Dear Pastor,

I have been reading your column since I was a child. I am in my 20s now. I don’t even know where to start.

I have been sleeping with my very good friend’s father for years now. The thing is, Pastor, this man can’t leave me alone. His wife is a hairdresser and his family has always been good to me.

Let’s call him B. Pastor, what B doesn’t know is that I obeahed him. My family is from MoBay. I am a ‘coolie’ and I set a coolie tie on him. Now I want him to leave me alone but he can’t.

I want to live my life. His daughter and I are the same age. She has moved out and is living with a guy. I want to do the same.

Her father works for a supermarket, but he doesn’t have any money.

I found a man, and even though I am cheating on him, I want to be with him. When I was younger it was fun to be with my friend’s father, but now he is 50 and broke.

I want a life and a man for myself. How can I get this 50-year-old broke, married man to leave me alone?

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Dear Writer,

Let me begin by saying that I hope this man would see your letter and drop you before you drop him. You consider him an old man now, but that is after you have enjoyed his money.

I am not saying that you should continue the relationship with this man, but you have made a fool out of him for the years you have been with him.

But, he has also made himself a fool by spending his money on you.

Let us face it, you are in your 20s now and you said the relationship has been going on for years and you are blaming him for everything.

I am putting it straight to you. You are disgusted by this man and you want his family to know that both of you have carried on an affair.

That is why you say the type of work his wife does and where he works, also. You want her to know now.

I wish I could say that you are a good girl, but I can’t be a hypocrite. You are a very bad girl and you believe in doing things that are evil.

Here you are saying that you “obeahed him” and you “set a coolie tie on him”. I do not believe in such foolish thing as working obeah on a man and tying him.

But you believe that you were successful in doing so. Your conscience will haunt you for a long time. And I repeat, I hope this man will see your letter.

You want this man out of your life because he is broke. In plain Jamaican slang ‘you nyam him out’. That is what some of you girls do to men.

In spite of your wickedness, I wish you well and I would urge you to pray about yourself and to read your Bible and go to church.

You are now with another man. Please don’t put your ‘coolie tie’ on him.

Pastor