Husband doesn’t know I was a street girl

Dear Pastor,

I am 27 years old and I have been married for the last two years. My husband grew up in the church and when I met him, he couldn’t even help himself.

I was almost like a street girl. Lots of people did not know that every week, I left the country and went to St Catherine where I had friends. We used to ‘catch men’.

The man I married was driving to the country alone and I stopped him and he offered me a ride; that is how our relationship started.

It was not anything sexual that we talked about. However, he asked me if I had a boyfriend and I said no; I then asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said almost. I asked him how can one almost have a girlfriend, it is either he has one or he does not.

He said that the girl he loves had just migrated and they were only friends for six months, so he did not know what would happen to the relationship. He ended up carrying me right to my house that evening.

We exchanged numbers and that’s how our life started. I told him I was coming back to town and so I did, but I could not stay with my friends. I stayed with some relatives I had.

This guy was still living at his parents’ home. I came to Kingston the Friday and

Dear F.W.,

The only time I believe a woman should explain her past in details to her man is if it would help her present relationship. Otherwise, she should keep quiet about it. The past is your past and you cannot do anything about it. It is gone. he picked me up and took me out. He picked me up at 7 p.m and by 10 p.m. I was back home. I was angry and I told myself I was not a child.

He said that I should not go home late. For the whole weekend, we went out every night and he did not even touch me. When he was leaving on Sunday night, he gave me an envelope and in it was $8,000.

I had to ask him to kiss me and I thought he was sick, because that is not how normal men behave. I never went back on the streets.

To cut a long story, Pastor, this man and I are now married. I was at a certain place and one of my former customers saw me and was about to say something. I had to say quickly, “Wait a minute, let me introduce you to my husband.”

The guy shook his hand and said, “Congratulations.” I am now a Christian, but I have never told my husband about my past.

Nobody at his church knows anything about me. He is very quiet, and in my church we don’t give testimonies about our past lives.

My husband and I are trying to have a child, I hope we can. Tell me how you feel about our relationship.

F.W.

Nevertheless, some women ignorantly tell their men just about everything, and these men taunt the women about it, especially when they are angry; and they call them whores.

Now, having said the above, let me quickly add that you were not honest when you met this man.

But you tried to behave yourself after meeting him and, to me, that is commendable.

I hope both of you will treat each other well and that you will have children together. May both of you be faithful to each other.

Pastor