Wife wants another child

Dear Pastor

I am 50 and my wife is 40. When we met, she introduced me to your column and I have not stopped reading it. I celebrated my 50th birthday last year. People say I look younger than 50. I eat well and exercise and my wife takes good care of me.

I have three children but none with my wife. She says that something is missing between us. She would like us to have a child together. She has two boys. I am helping to educate them. They call me Daddy. My wife would love to have a girl.

But I am planning to retire soon and I don’t want to have a child in school after I have retired.

Sometimes my wife seems so unhappy, and when

I ask her why she is so unhappy, she says because she wants to get pregnant. Can you help me by telling me why should a woman who has everything to her comfort, such as a house that is fully paid for, a good insurance policy, a car, and money in the bank in her name and my name, still be unhappy because I have not got her pregnant? Do you think that makes sense, Pastor?

I was married before and my first wife got what she should have got. Although my ex-wife came from a lovely family, my present wife is taking care of me much better than my first wife. I would like to make an appointment with you for my wife and I to come in and see you.

E.J.

Dear E.J.,

I would be glad to meet with you and your wife; however, it would have

to be by appointment. You may call my office and set up an appointment. My office number is 876-929-1667; my cell number is 876-877-1009.

You say that your wife is eager to have another child but you are not interested in fathering another child. You are wondering why she cannot be satisfied not having another child.

She is 40 but she wants another child. I would suggest that before both of you come to see me, your wife should go to the doctor and discuss her problems with him or her.

She is indeed very fortunate to be 40 and to be living in a house that is fully paid for, and to have a husband who trusts her and has her name in his bank account. But she has her reasons why she wants another child.

But when both of you come to see me we can discuss these things. But it is said that a woman over 40 is high-risk, and that is the reason I said she should visit her doctor.

Perhaps your wife believes that if both of you should have a child together she would have a firmer grip on you. I don’t know. I am only guessing.

Pastor